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  • First Impressions
  • Thanksgiving
  • Blinded by Love
  • Darkness vs. Light
  • Obstacles in the Way

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  • Would You Follow Your Shepherd’s Call?
  • Drawing Meaning from Words
  • Growth Enhanced Through Friendships
  • The Psychoanalysis of Unconscious Thoughts
  • Recognized Steps to Healing
  • Death Finalizes Our Crossover

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GOVERNMENT’S DRASTIC MEASURES

BY BERNADETTE MASSIAH

Consequence of actions

THOUGHTS moves to action, Action produces results, and with the results comes consequences for good or bad.

We need to filter our thoughts.  Thoughts that trigger negative emotions.  When we encounter actions of others that provoke negative thoughts which move to express actions, one then need to grab a hold of self, to control out-burst of actions that will lead to bad conclusions.  Being patient with self as you ponder the action of others will lead to good conclusions on both sides.  War is with those who do not see the impeding danger of their actions.  Selfishness has tied itself around them and the end is not good even for those who are innocent.

The Canadian truckers protest is an example of what happens when sight is blinded, and passion over rules logic. The situation offers a reminder of the fragility of the  global supply chains to and from businesses that eventually affects individuals; and of the deep interdependence of the U.S. and Canadian economies, which exchange millions in imports and exports daily.

This pandemic and the Public Health restrictions that came with it, have brought together a number of disparate movements and ideologies.  And though the mandate applies to truckers crossing the U.S. border and not all truckers, “some are taking sides with the truckers’ convoy as has one Paul Aubue, a 64-year-old grandfather of a trucking company protesting the recent vaccine mandate and the vaccine passport.”

Locals who are frustrated, fed up, and at times in fear of leaving their homes are against the sustained protest.  “One local who give her name as Jennifer was called “”’a dumb cunt sheep’”” for wearing a mask says, “”I’m just done with those people.”” 

And that is what some siding with the convoy protesting wants—fear; fear, that will deter the actions of logic to good health, and back to a thriving  economy.

The government’s drastic measures are a sad one. But, at times to inject order and peace, drastic measures must be taken.  The truckers’ play on words of Trudeau’s father, is shallow thinking.  

Quotes from—The Guardian.com

Link: www.theguardian.om/world/2022Feb/16/ottawa-blockaid-strong-ties-extremists

Understanding Fog: A Metaphor for Clarity and Trust

Have you ever stood in front of something you know is there, yet you still couldn’t see it clearly?

I woke up on Thursday morning, April 16, 2026, to an atmosphere thick with fog. The sight indicates that the air quality is poor.  The moment made me reflect on life as I recall a few scriptures from the pictures I took, unable to see the buildings beyond the lower ones. Like fog that doesn’t only exist in the atmosphere, preventing visibility, it exists in the mind, in relationships and in the way truth is sometimes hidden.

WHAT FOG REALLY IS

FOG is a cloud that forms at ground level when water vapour condenses into tiny liquid droplets, caused by air cooling to its dew point (100% humidity) or by moisture being added to the air temperature and dew point that are within 2.5 C(4.5 F) of each other.

In simple terms, fog limits vision.

And that limitation is powerful.

FOG AS A METAPHOR

Just as fog restricts how far the eyes can see, manipulation and misinformation restrict how far the mind can perceive.

The word Fog is a condition and is used as slang. The word is also used to describe emotional manipulation in relationships. And reminds me of how people can be blinded not physically, but mentally—by cleverly crafted words, half-truths, and emotional manipulation. Especially when education, awareness, or experience is missing.

Scriptures speak clearly about this condition:

He has blinded their eyes and has made their hearts hard, that they should not see with their eyes and get the thought with their hearts and turn around and I should heal them. – John 12:40

And again:

For the heart of this people has grown unreceptive, and with their ears they have heard without response, and they have shut their eyes, that they should never see with their eyes and hear with their ears and understand with their hearts and turn back and I should heal them. – Acts 28:27.

Fog, whether physical or symbolic, limits understanding.

THOUGHT AND DISCERNMENT

 Thought is the act or process of thinking, meditating, or reflecting.

Our Creator says in Isaiah 55:8, “My thoughts are higher than your thoughts.” While human thoughts will never exceed divine understanding, it remains true that an individual’s thoughts can be elevated above those of their peers through knowledge, patience, and discernment.

The psychological meaning defines thought as any pathological disturbance of thought processes, including delusions and flight of ideas. *Loosening of associates or perseveration characteristic of certain mental disorders, notably schizophrenia and considered by some authorities to be the defining feature of the disorder.

TRUST AND HUMAN BEHAVIOR

Brings me to the concept of trust.

Every day we give trust to complete strangers—on the road, in public spaces, and in daily interaction.

As much as we do, we must be alert and aware; if not, one can find themselves in situations that could deplete others’ trust in you or your very enjoyment of life diminish. When trust is broken, people often cycle through three levels of emotions. The individual becomes Fearful. Fearful of accusations of wrongful conduct, which leads the individual to fight. To fight the derogatory statements that damage his or her reputation or association with others. When the fight becomes too much to continue, the individual takes to fleeing (Flight). Recognizing this pattern allows one to respond consciously rather than reactively.

Ultimately, trust begins within and lies with you. And when you are diligent and grounded in truth, there’s no need to be fearful. Rather, you can stand firm and fight with your truths, thus avoiding flight. Keeping in mind that he who fights and runs away, lives to fight another day.

COMMUNICATION AS GUIDANCE AND AS GROWTH

Trust and communication are but a handshake. One without the other lacks confirmation.

Communication keeps relationships healthy. Even when an advantage is seen, the one whose interest is in your hands should be told of your intention. When not done, the action could cause future distrust.

For those who live a spiritually grounded life, communication comes in many guided forms, such as in dreams, a scriptural revelation, an observation, a contact, a podcast and at times a scent.

While preparing for an appointment on the same day, I removed a pair of pants from the closet and smelled a strange smell. The kind of smell you experience in a hospital. Immediately, the thought that crossed my mind was sickness. Whether coincidence or intuition due to members of my family not in good health, moments like these remind me to remain attentive.

My trust in others has diminished somewhat, but I still allow the benefit of the doubt. Only to experience at times that those given the benefit of doubt end up hurting me.

It is difficult to live without contact with others. This post is one way of making contact. It is a hunger we crave; to express our thoughts and receive the input of others, which enlightens and helps in our achievement.  Even our Creator is in contact with the angels and cherubs as to the happenings down here out of His world.

When humans isolate one from the other, even in the name of “experiment” to accomplish a fact. If not done with balance, an individual becomes delusional or harmful to themselves if not to others.

Balance is the key to having less stress, illnesses, chaos, and deaths.

There’s a level of growth each of us goes through, and this is due to our education and experiences. Some growths are faster than others.  As well as each one’s filter of knowledge differs. Active listening enhances understanding and improves memory recall. Allowing responses that are logical and adaptable to immediate or current changes.

REFLECTION

Words filtered through generations, this quote from personal experience is expressed; that was Isaac Newton’s remark to Dr. Bentley: If I have done the public any service, it is due to patience and my thoughts!

To clarify what I mean. While patience is a virtue, it can also place one in vulnerable circumstances.  My patience has allowed others to take advantage of my circumstances to benefit themselves. And by experience and knowledge through thoughts, I have looked at some having to deal with, with kindness, outspoken expressions of disgust, which have caused some people to look at me with indifference. And having sympathy and humility.

In conclusion, I hope that by viewing my circumstances from the outside, I was able to enlighten those of you who resonate with this post, to have insight into your own circumstances. I hope that instead of allowing the actions of others to affect your decision to the point of giving up on yourself, you look beyond it to find understanding within your heart to be healed, as Acts 28:27 puts it.

FOG IN THE PHYSICAL WORLD

As a reminder, or for those without this knowledge. There are five different fog formations, and they are:

  • Radiation Fog: the condition forms at night when the ground releases heat, cooling the air immediately above it, especially under clear, calm conditions.
  • Frontal Fog: occurs when warm raindrops evaporate into a cooler, drier layer of air near the ground, typically during a warm front.
  • Advection Fog: Develops when warm moist air moves over a colder surface (land or water_ cooling the air from below.
  • Steam Fog: Normally seen over lakes and rivers in autumn or in the Arctic forms when very cold air moves over relatively warm water, causing rapid evaporation and saturation of the air.
  • Upslope Fog: Forms when moist air is pushed up sloping terrain, such as a hill or mountain, by wind.

Whether atmospheric or metaphorical, fog teaches the same lesson: clarity is temporary unless actively maintained.

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REFLECTION ON THE BEGINNING OF NISAN 14th

In Matthew 24:45, the question asks: Who is the faithful and discreet slave? His master appointed him over his domestics to give them food at the proper time. The verse goes on to say:  Happy is that slave if his master, on arriving, finds him doing so.

Some of us have lives likened to a home with many doors. Each door reveals what’s inside.

My life is strangely filled with mysteries and mystical magic. It is very stressful at times when my own strength is lacking. Therefore, I let go and allow the forces to be who they are for the moment. I am then concerned about you. Your knowledge is limited about our spiritual world and the people within it. Some people influence you to advance to goodness. Others lead you to the destruction of others or yourself.

The initial thought for this post was moved when I opened a can of Grace Vienna Sausages. The thought of grocery prices and a company’s deception to the public. Given much thought. I realize that perhaps some on the production line are having issues. Either stressed from overworking or underpay, and couldn’t care less if a can is missing a sausage. Then I recalled this had happened before, so I looked back at my photographs at the date and time. The first occurrence was on 2025/04/13 at 8:52 a.m., and the second on 2026/04/01 at 8:46 a.m. This was not coincidental; this was history, this was a message.

Whether a message from the Creator, the demons, or those playing judge and jury of my life. I was moved to educate some of you who do not know. Some people are unaware that sharing a memoir revealing their life can be used against them. It is often twisted into manipulated perceptions and limited understanding of spiritual matters. I wrote my personal experiences truthfully. This has left some in doubt. I must fight each day to keep my sanity.

 I am a person whose reaction most times are positive through negative comments or actions of others towards me. And speak the truth regardless of a crowd’s opinion. I know to my God I stand or will fall. So, who are you to judge?

In Hebrews chapter five, verse four states that solid food belongs to mature people. These are individuals having their perceptive power trained to distinguish both right and wrong. From my having to deal with some of you, it is clear that you are immature. Your actions have caused the physical illness of some, and others have defied those in authority.

My wish is for all to grow to maturity. This way, our interaction with others will be peaceful and kind. We will have a balanced view of, and implement justice.

Just a peek at what I am up to, the next paragraph tells. Thanks for reading. Until next time, have a wonderful Easter filled with joy and good friends.

❄️ SHORT REINTRODUCTION

Until My Dying Day was a memoir.
This is something else.

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The Significance of Jesus’ Death on Nisan 14

EASTER REFLECTION – NISAN 14

Nisan 14 marks the beginning of Passover and commemorates the anniversary of Jesus’ death, often referred to as the Memorial. While this date typically falls in March or April on the Gregorian calendar, the Hebrew calendar is lunar. In 2026, Nisan 14 begins on April 1.

April is a meaningful time for reflection. It is a time when people of all nations consider the life, purpose, and example of Jesus. His life on earth offers enduring lessons that continue to benefit us today. The Bible provides powerful reminders. It strengthens our faith. It reassures us that the events we see unfolding around us need not fill us with fear. Instead, it fills us with hope and joy.

For those who trust in Jehovah’s word, there is confidence in His promises. Scriptures remind us that He is not slow in fulfilling them. He does not desire any to be destroyed. Instead, He wishes that all attain repentance (2 Peter 3:9). Justice belongs to Him, and His timing is perfect (Deuteronomy 32:35).

WHY DID HE COME?

Jehovah’s thoughts are higher than human thoughts (Isaiah 55:8). When wronged, humans often respond impulsively, sometimes violently. Yet Jehovah’s response to Adam and Eve’s rebellion revealed patience, purpose, and foresight. He did not destroy immediately. Instead, He allowed life to continue. He set in motion a plan far greater than humans could fully comprehend.

Imperfection and corruption are part of the human condition. However, Jesus’ example shows us that we can strive to remain honest. We can also speak truth with respect and show honor—even when it is undeserved. His life teaches us that no human authority determines our ultimate worth or destiny.

THE SEED – A LESSON IN PERSPECTIVE

Consider a pear that, when cut open, reveals a damaged seed. At first glance, it may seem spoiled. Yet another person simply removes the seed and continues to prepare it and enjoy the fruit.

The lesson is simple but profound. Just as the fruit remains good, we can remove corrupt thoughts or harmful intentions from our hearts. By doing so, we protect ourselves and choose love, kindness, and peace in our dealings with others.

Pear has a rotten seed

THE MEANING OF JESUS’ DEATH

Jehovah’s actions were never careless or impulsive. They were measured, thoughtful, and motivated by love for His creation. Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection demonstrate that love in action.

Through one man, sin entered the world, bringing condemnation. Through one act of righteousness, people of all kinds are offered the opportunity to be declared righteous (Romans 5:18–19). Jesus’ sacrifice provided spiritual restoration and hope for life beyond sin.

His resurrection—recorded by our ancestors and affirmed by the faith of believers today—is a cause for genuine joy. On Nisan 14, we remember, reflect, and give thanks with grateful hearts.

THIS SEASON, MAY IT BRING YOU PEACE, JOY, AND RENEWED HOPE.

👉 Take a moment today to reflect on Jesus’ example and consider how love, kindness, and faith can shape your daily actions.

The Gift of Sight and Human Responsibility

“The light that lies in the eyes of humans
Has been the Creator’s undoing.”
— B. M. Lustol

INTRODUCTION

Sight is one of the most precious abilities bestowed upon humanity. Through remarkable artistry, the Creator designed the human eye with the capacity to perceive the world in a manner reflective of His own ability to see. Yet, despite this gift, not all humans—nor all animals—can experience sight fully. Vision loss may occur from birth or develop later in life due to a range of contributing factors.

From a medical perspective, several factors can influence loss of sight. These include inadequate nutrition, insufficient sleep, lack of physical activity, substance misuse, and prolonged exposure to digital screens. Genetic inheritance also plays a significant role, as certain visual impairments are passed down through ancestral lines.

Advances in research and technology have enabled some individuals who were born blind to regain sight. Others who lost their vision later in life have also managed to regain partial or full sight. However, access to these advancements remains limited. High costs associated with corrective procedures and specialized equipment prevent many from benefiting from these innovations.

This reality raises an important question: why do some individuals lose their sight later in life? While lifestyle and aging are often cited as primary causes, these explanations alone do not account for every circumstance.

From a spiritual perspective, Scripture emphasizes accountability in how gifts are used. God examines the heart of each individual and allows time for reflection and correction of harmful behavior. As stated at Psalms 11:5, “Anyone loving violence, His soul certainly hates.” Similarly, 1 Peter 3:12 affirms, “For the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous ones. His ears are toward their supplications. But His face is against those doing bad things.” These verses underscore the principle that misuse of one’s abilities—particularly when they cause harm to others—does not go unnoticed.

In today’s world, misuse of technology has become increasingly prevalent. Surveillance, invasion of privacy, and the exploitation of information shared in trust have placed individuals and families at risk. Homes are no longer guaranteed safe havens when discretion is absent. As deception and misconduct increase, it has become essential to reassess how information is shared, even among family and friends.

In today’s world, misuse of technology has become increasingly prevalent. Surveillance, invasion of privacy, and the exploitation of information shared in trust have placed individuals and families at risk. Homes are no longer guaranteed safe havens when discretion is absent. As deception and misconduct increase, it has become essential to reassess how information is shared, even among family and friends.

To the younger generation, freedom may initially appear as an escape; however, with time, unrestrained freedom can become a burden. True stability comes not from pleasing those with wealth or authority, but from acting with integrity. As Ephesians 6:7 advises, individuals should serve sincerely. They should not be people-pleasers. Instead, they must have a sense of accountability to God rather than to men. Ultimately, each person will be judged fairly, and every action—good or bad—will be repaid accordingly.

Medical Considerations Related to Vision Health

Certain eye conditions continue to contribute significantly to vision impairment worldwide.

Trachoma, a highly contagious eye infection, primarily affects women and children.

Symptoms include itching and irritation of the eyes and eyelids, discharge, eye pain, light sensitivity, and blurred vision. As the infection progresses, scarring can develop on the inner eyelid. This scarring can cause the eyelashes to turn inward and scratch the cornea. This condition is known as trichiasis. If untreated, this can lead to corneal clouding and ulcers, potentially resulting in permanent vision loss. Trachoma spreads through direct contact with infected individuals, insects such as flies, or contaminated objects like towels.

Trichiasis itself may also occur without a known cause and is more common in adults. It can result from eye infections, inflammation of the eyelids, autoimmune conditions, or trauma. Treatment typically involves removing or redirecting the affected eyelashes to prevent damage to the eye’s surface.

Diagram titled 'HUMAN EYE ANATOMY' with labels: Cornea, Iris, Pupil, Lens, Ciliary Body, Vitreous Humor, Sclera, Choroid, Macula, and Optic Nerve.
This vintage-style diagram illustrates the complex inner structures and various components of the human eye.

Another significant contributor to eye discomfort and visual disturbance is

Meibomian Gland Dysfunction (MGD). MGD is a chronic, progressive condition affecting the tear film, which is essential for keeping the eye properly lubricated. Studies indicate that a substantial percentage of individuals with dry eye symptoms also have MGD. Contributing factors include prolonged screen use and environmental conditions. Other factors are contact lens wear, certain medications, and eye surgeries. Poor blinking habits and chronic eye diseases such as glaucoma also contribute.

If left untreated, MGD can worsen over time, leading to increased irritation, inflammation, and dryness. Notably, dry eye is rarely caused by a lack of tear production alone. Instead, it is often due to an insufficient lipid layer. This deficiency allows tears to evaporate too quickly between blinks.

CONCLUSION

The eyes are vital not only for navigating the physical world. They also reflect responsibility, showing how individuals care for their health. Additionally, they reveal how people use technology and interact with others. Regular eye examinations are essential. Practicing healthy habits is another crucial step. Exercising discernment in both physical and spiritual matters is also important for preserving this invaluable gift.

Thank you for reading. Until next time, take care.

Strengthening Fraud Protections for Canadians: A Call to Action

Recent decisions surrounding bank accountability in cases of fraud continue to raise serious concerns for Canadian consumers. These concerns and recent experiences, see (Self Awareness: The quiet cost of unseen influences. 2026/2/25), moved me to write this post.

Customer signing documents at a bank counter with a smiling teller assisting behind glass.
A smiling teller assists a customer with paperwork at a bright and welcoming First City Bank branch.

INVESTIGATIVE REPORTS

By BBC Tuition scam appears to be spreading. Targeted are foreign students. Scam left woman with $37K in fraudulent charges – and no help from bank, police or school.

“Fraudsters promise discounted tuition in exchange for an upfront payment. They collect and keep the student’s money, then “pay” the school using stolen credit and debit cards. The student believes their tuition is covered — until the fraudulent payment is flagged.

By CBC’s Go Public, a troubling case involving the Bank of Nova Scotia was highlighted. A woman lost thousands of dollars to a scam. She was initially denied reimbursement. The bank reportedly justified its refusal. They claimed the customer had not responded to requests to update her personal information. This position was maintained despite the significant financial harm suffered and the growing sophistication of scams targeting everyday Canadians.

Cases such as this underscore a broader issue. Financial institutions increasingly rely on procedural technicalities to deny relief. This occurs even when customers act in good faith and fall victim to highly deceptive criminal schemes. Fraud tactics are evolving. Therefore, banks entrusted to safeguard personal savings must also evolve their standards of care and responsibility.

Public scrutiny has already prompted renewed debate among policymakers and regulators, including questions raised about why proposed amendments intended to strengthen consumer protections were rejected

“”I think they’re doing the bidding of the banks, instead of standing up for Canadian consumers,”” said Davies. NDP MP Don Davies sits on the finance committee. His amendment to the Bank Act aimed to strengthen fraud protections for consumers.” However, it was voted against. A show of whose interest is most important.

These decisions have real‑world consequences. For victims of fraud, denial of reimbursement can mean devastating financial and emotional stress, often with little recourse.

Banks benefit from public trust, and decades of customer loyalty. With those benefits comes a responsibility to respond fairly and transparently. It is important to act compassionately when clients are targeted by fraud. This is especially true when warning signs, system controls, or delayed interventions may have played a role.

CALL TO ACTION

Canadians deserve stronger protections and clearer accountability from financial institutions. Regulators, legislators, and banks must work together to ensure fraud victims are treated with fairness rather than suspicion. It is time to revisit existing policies. We need to strengthen reimbursement standards. Consumer protection should be at the center of Canada’s financial system.

I, you, we must urge policymakers to reconsider rejected amendments. We need to press regulators to enforce meaningful oversight. Banks should adopt victim‑centered approaches that reflect the realities of modern fraud.

KNOW YOUR BANK’S POLICY

  • Read your banks’ policies or ask for the policies to be briefly explained you.
  • Request an alert on your profile to inform you of unusual transactions.
  • Most banks will not call and ask for your personal banking information. Even if you and a Teller are on friendly terms, do not answer certain questions. These questions go against the bank’s policy. Let the individual know you’ll see them in the branch.
  • Do not have lengthy conversations, as this is another opportunity to record your voice for use. If your voice has not already been illegally recorded by those around you.

Thank you for reading. If you have experience with similar situations, feel free to share and leave your comment.

SELF-AWARENESS: THE QUIET COST OF UNSEEN INFLUENCE

A PERSONAL REFLECTION

Recent events—bizarre enough to demand reflection—have compelled me to look beyond the present moment and share these thoughts. Not to alarm, but to awaken. Too often, people fall victim to forces. These forces quietly benefit from your confusion. My deceased sister was such a victim. They gather what they themselves have not earned. It is also important to understand this truth: failed efforts are not always the result of yours.

There’s a difference.

I was once what you would call an Optimist. An optimistic person is one who has hope with courage. From my youth to the age I am now, I have always looked at the positive side of the bleakest of situations. Some thought I was too trusting. But that wasn’t it. You see, I understand people as I do my own demons, which allows me to see beyond a person’s actions. And so, I can show sympathy towards the actions of others.

But as life goes on, I’ve changed due to the actions of people, including my own family. And now, I am what you will call a Pessimist. Most times, I prepare for the worst due to indifference, and at times outright scorn, teaches lessons optimism alone cannot. Observation sharpens awareness, and awareness reveals patterns—often the same patterns that divide families, friendships, and professional relationships.

Speaking out against such dynamics is not aggression; it is protection. For those willing to listen, it may also serve as a warning.

Observation makes me aware of the games of the wicked ones. These games drive people insane and separate them from family, friends, and associates. My actions in speaking out serve as my protection. They provide a clue for those listening. This is a part of their game to destroy me.

Know this, our life is shaped less by our effort. It is shaped more by the psychology of the people closest to us. This influence is not limited to our family but includes those where you live, work, and play.

The danger?

If you stay around them long enough, you start doubting your own reality.

A CASE IN POINT

Some people don’t generate their own energy. They survive on yours.

Allow me to illustrate.

There’s a part of the brain called the insula, which helps form and protect beliefs. The brain reacts with instinct, not logic. When under stress, the body reroutes blood away from the prefrontal cortex. This area supports quick and logical reactions. As a result, you may be prevented from thinking clearly, even if you know better.

REALITY WITH A BIT OF HUMOR

Recently, I requested a replacement credit card after the original appeared to be missing. The search was done in every place it would have been. I was confident I had not left it behind anywhere. The new card arrived, was activated, and all seemed well.

At a Walmart store counter days later, I attempted to pay—only for the machine to decline the card repeatedly. Internally, my thoughts were far less polite than my outward demeanor. I briefly considered expressing my frustration, but my natural reluctance to attract public attention prevailed. I used another card and left, mildly irritated but composed.

The following day, while searching my wallet for a receipt, I discovered the “missing” card. It was quietly resting there as if it had been present all along. It was silently judging me. I immediately recognized it as the old card. The new one still had the activation sticker attached when it was placed in the wallet.

One moment, you’re confident in your memory. Next, you’re being stared down by a piece of plastic, questioning your grip on reality.

Without awareness, one day you wake not yourself anymore, but rather the poppet on their psychological string that satisfies their desires. Your reaction, which fed their twisted mental libido.

Look at the fatal stabbing at the Shoppers Drug Mart in downtown Toronto in December 2015 of the ultrasound technician on a break from her job. The accused claimed she was being controlled through “nanotechnology” devices in her body and someone had “hijacked” her body and carried out the assault. She was found not guilty of the death of the victim.

WHEN DOUBT BECOMES THE GOAL

The implication in such situations is clear: repeated doubt can be weaponized. The objective is not confusion—it is erosion. Label someone as forgetful, unreliable, or impaired often enough, and eventually they begin to question themselves.

Our brains form beliefs through repetition of seen actions and speech. That’s why slogans, headlines, and viral posts have so much power. When you hear something over and over, over time, our brain starts to accept it as truth, even without real proof. This leads to shrinking—psychologically and emotionally. Then to speak of your situation only to be ignored. You stop listening to other views and start reacting with anger fear or even hate. When scared you don’t think you react. That’s when you become the easiest to manipulate. Add incompatible medications, substances, or unaddressed health concerns, and vulnerability increases further.

This is why awareness is not optional—it is essential.

Carl Jung’s concept of the Shadow refers to the parts of ourselves we deny. Some individuals never confront their own shadow. Instead, they project it outward. They accuse others of selfishness, arrogance, or being “the problem,” when psychologically, they are describing themselves. Gradually, the recipient of these projections reorganizes their personality around constant defense against accusations that were never theirs. This process is exhausting.

We have to become awake and aware. Or every interaction will leave you drained. They don’t grow. They don’t change. They just feed.

THE COST OF DRAINED ENERGY

Your goals stall—not because you lack ability, but because your psychological energy is constantly siphoned away.

This depletion is often referred to as psychic energy—what we now call emotional and mental bandwidth. It is the internal force that fuels thought, emotion, and behavior.

Some people generate their own energy. Others survive by consuming the products of others.

And once a belief is in place, any challenge to it feels personal. Instead of changing your mind, your brain reacts emotionally and locks that belief in even more tightly. That’s why it is so hard to change someone’s mind. Without awareness, one risks becoming a puppet on another’s psychological strings. They may react in ways that feed unhealthy needs rather than serve their own growth.

You need this knowledge of self. Without it, you will continue to entertain the wicked ones. Their lack of this knowledge continues to destroy lives.

CONCLUSION: CHOOSE CONSCIOUS GROWTH

In closing, know this: emotional intelligence can be cultivated. Awareness of self, of others, and of one’s environment is the foundation of a meaningful life.

Our lives are shaped less by dramatic decisions and more by the quiet ones we make daily.

If this reflection resonates with you, stay awake. Stay aware of yourself, your associations, and your surroundings.

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Reflections on Love and Faith: A Journey to Meaning

Love is the thread that binds us to one another and to this world. As Ann Pratchett so eloquently writes, “The love between humans is the thing that nails us to this earth.” It is love that grounds us, gives us purpose, and shapes our journey. Torquato Tasso reminds us, “True love cannot be found where it does not exist. It cannot be denied where it does.” Love’s presence is undeniable and transformative, guiding our actions and our hearts. Yet even the deepest human love is but a reflection of a greater love—the love shown by Jesus Christ.

Still within February, as we reflect on love and the history of blacks. I reflected on the thin line between love and hate for wickedness. The same, God showed when HE bought a deluge on earth in February. He lovingly continued our existence through one family, the family of Noah.  A reminder of the thin line between love and hate. 

As we cherish the love we share with others, let us also remember the ultimate example of love. It is a sacrifice made not out of obligation, but out of boundless compassion and grace. Hebrews 10:12 speaks to this sacrifice. It says, “But this man offered one sacrifice for sins forever. Afterward, he sat down on the right hand of God.” When Jesus allowed His body to be nailed to the stake, He demonstrated a love so profound and selfless. This love continues to inspire and heal.

Therefore, may we strive to reflect even a fraction of that love in our own lives. We should care deeply and forgive freely. We must love unconditionally. However, we must not forsake the need to exercise justice where injustice thrives.

And it is within this reflection of love. I am sharing a reminder about a past post. Its title is WITNESSING THE FUTURE: SPACE, TRUTH, AND HUMANITY’S JOURNEY, and it was posted on 2025/11/10. I had given the reason for my not taking a picture of a sighting.

Here is what I had written with a few word changes for clarification: On October 21, 2025, in the early morning, after 5:00 a.m., the atmosphere was still very dark. I was looking through the window up at the sky as I normally do, sometimes counting the brightly visible stars. Between that time and 7:00 a.m. I witnessed something extraordinary—an object in the sky, unmoving, luminous, and unlike any aircraft I’ve observed. I did not photograph it. The truth is, I never thought of it until after the fact. I should have taken a picture. Truth is we’ve been conditioned to believe only what we can see and record. But faith once moved civilizations—before cameras, before satellites, before the internet. With further explanation given for the reason to exercise faith.

Of course, some did doubt me, but as it is written, time reveals all truths. So, here in this post, I have provided proof of the sighting seen on October of 2025. In exactly the same place, a similar sighting is seen again on February 04, 2026. It is not as bright and still unmoving. The sighting is taken at 9:55 p. m. The time is noted. I know exactly where and in what location in the sky the moon is at that time.

Proof that faith without doubt is answered in God’s time.

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Celebrating Family Day: The Importance of Family Bonds

“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.”” — Michael J. Fox.

FEBRUARY 16, 2026, another year here to celebrate family day. Thank you, Heavenly Father.

A day initiated by Don Getty after reflecting on his own family situation. In 1989, the throne speech announced a new February holiday named Family Day. It is known in other provinces as Louis Real Day, Heritage Day, and Islander Day. The day allows families to spend more time together.

However, the day is appreciated by most.

When we think of the word family we think of our birth parents. But family is who chooses us by adoption, or we choose them.

ANCIENT HISTORY

From the Latin verb—adoptãre, meaning to choose for oneself, take by choice or select. Specifically, to take a family.

 Long before laws and agencies existed, ancient civilizations practiced adoption for social, political and familial reasons. Adopting slaves as sons has long been a Middle Eastern practice. As a result, they had inheritance rights. However, these rights were not above those of children descended naturally from the father. Ancient Rome elite frequently adopted heirs to maintain the family name, wealth and power.

We have the account of Rachel and Leah both considered the children born to Jacob by their handmaids as their own sons. These children inherited along with those born directly of Jacob’s legal wives. They were natural sons of the father. The slave girls’ children were considered the wives’ property. Rachel and Leah had property rights in these children. (Genesis 30: 1-24)

And Pharaoh’s daughter’s adoption of Moses. Men and women had equal rights under Egyptian law. Therefore, Pharaoh’s daughter exercised the right of adoption. (Exodus 2:1-10)

CURRENT HISTORY

International adoption (referred to as intercountry or transnational adoption) involves adopting a child from another country. An individual or couple from one country becomes the legal and permanent parent(s) of that child. The laws of countries vary in their willingness to allow international adoptions. Some countries have established rules and procedures for international adoption, while other countries expressly forbid it.

MAJOR ORIGIN and RECEIVING COUNTRIES of CHILDREN

According to a 2013 study, six countries (China, Ethiopia, India, South Korea, Ukraine and Vietnam) were the major origin countries for almost a decade in the period 2003-2011. With slight changes in other countries sending most children.

China has long been a major sending country in international adoption, but as of 2025 the number of international adoptions has drastically reduced to an improved Chinese economy and more restrictive laws prohibiting international adoption by non-relatives.  Concerns raised over abuse.

2024 analysis found that the top 10 receiving countries from 2004 to 2021 (of countries where national data was available, ranked by the number of adoptees) were:[19]

Rank Country Total adoptions 2004-2021.

1 USA 187,5786 Sweden 10,113
2 Italy 47,2877 Netherlands 9,253
3 Spain 37,6888 Germany 7,228
4 France 35,3539 Norway 4,706
5 Canada 21,64810 Denmark 4,623

The 2009 study found a significant concentration in adoption rates. The top five countries accounted for more than 80% of overall adoption from 1998 to 2007. The US alone accounted for around 50% of overall adoption.

ADOPTION: IMPACT ON PARENTS AND CHILD

Adoption profoundly transforms the lives of both adoptive parents and the child. The process is often lengthy and emotionally demanding, designed to ensure a nurturing environment for the child. For many children, adoption can mean losing connections to their biological families. They may lose ties to their culture and roots as well. This may lead to feelings of uncertainty and overwhelm. Yet, adoption also brings significant benefits. It offers the child stability and opportunities. It provides a supportive family foundation essential for healthy growth.

For adoptive parents, welcoming a child can bring a deep sense of purpose and fulfillment. However, the journey doesn’t end with adoption. The post-adoption period can be mentally and emotionally challenging for both parents and child. Unresolved trauma in the child may surface, and parents may face unexpected issues throughout the lifelong adoption journey.

A CELEBRATED NOTE

As we gather to celebrate Family Day, let’s cherish the bonds—whether with our birth families or adoptive ones. Let’s remember those who may feel unwelcome in their family units. We should also acknowledge those experiencing hardship. Let us hope for justice and compassion for all. Family Day is a time to honour the strength, diversity, and love that families bring into our lives.

My friends, thanks for taking the time to read this post. I wish you a fun-filled day of gathering, lots to eat and encouraging conversation. Enjoy!



NEVER BURN THE BRIDGES YOU CROSS

It’s often said, “Don’t burn the bridges you cross,” or “It’s a small world.” These sayings hold true for good reason. Life unfolds in its own timing, often beyond our understanding, and trusting this unseen order is essential. While we may make many plans, ultimately, it is a higher power that directs our steps. What we perceive as delays may actually be protection. Detours may serve as redirection. Endings often prepare us for new beginnings. Sometimes, people we haven’t seen in years reappear unexpectedly. The nature of your parting—whether joyful or awkward—depends on the circumstances. Ideally, every relationship ends amicably. Life has a way of bringing us back across bridges we once crossed. It’s much like a highway leading to an airstrip before taking flight.

The Importance of Familiarity

Navigating life can be complicated, much like following a road map. Familiarity with the route makes reaching your destination easier. The same applies to relationships. Shared memories and experiences help us recall places, events, and the nuances of those we once knew. We remember how people reacted to certain things, their likes and dislikes, and the moments we shared.

You may have heard, “Forge your way or pretend until you succeed.” However, pretending can only last so long. Eventually, the truth surfaces, and inconsistencies become apparent. This is why it’s important to leave all relationships on a friendly note.

The Authenticity of Photographs

Seasons change, and so do people. Over time, areas transform due to development, and humans evolve through experiences. As I reflected on my journey. I never imagined I would write about my life. Yet, here I am, inspired by a photograph sent by a longtime friend. It’s true—a picture tells a thousand words. Yet, when altered, it can mislead just like a falsified document.

Authenticity matters because truth leads us where it will, not necessarily where we want to go. History becomes important to know. This is especially true when crowds gather. They bask in the false light of being “right” and vilify those who refuse to join them. As Thomas Merton wisely said:

“”We desire not the truth, but rather that our lie should be proved ‘right’ and our iniquity be vindicated as ‘just.’ This is what we have done to pervert our natural, instinctive appetite for truth. No wonder we hate. No wonder we are violent.””

Indeed. Many prefer a comforting lie over the discomfort of truth, sometimes going to great lengths to keep the truth hidden. Standing firm in your truth can be challenging, but it is necessary.

The Stories We Carry

Just as photographs tell stories, so do the scars on our bodies. Each mark is a testament to our experiences. As I looked at the photograph taken years ago, before a mark appeared on my face. The memory takes me back to an apartment on Broadview Avenue in Toronto. The photographer was a student at that time. I was both partner and model.

Over time, the marks became more visible. I remember moving to another floor in the building I now occupy. On opening the balcony door, I felt something pierce my forehead. I rubbed the site and paid no further attention to a spot that remains to this day. For the next few days, I moved with a coworker’s help. From that first day. I thought the move would lead to a happier place. Instead, I endured bruises that eventually faded. However, incidents and disturbances from neighbors lingered. Parts of this story are shared in my memoir, “Until My Dying Day” by B. M. Lustol

Our appearance and attitude are shaped by our journey and experiences. Growth is not always appreciated by others, nor understood by partners. While change can be positive, not all changes are celebrated or praised by our Creator. Regardless, we are called to exercise love, justice, and kindness. We need to honor our parents. We must respect those in positions of authority and leadership.

In Closing

Truth is not always comforting; it can be rocky and unpredictable, refusing to show us what we expect. Yet we must keep walking by faith. It is the assured expectation of God’s vindication. God vindicates those who remain loyal to their truths. He is our witness. When you leave people behind, ensure it’s on a friendly note. You never know when you might need to reconnect, clarify an accusation, or resolve a situation. Leaving relationships on good terms keeps doors open. This allows truth to enter. It dispels falsehoods, even when others attempt to sow division through altered images or documents.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. Your attention and openness to these reflections are truly appreciated. If you have thoughts or experiences to share, I welcome your perspective. Wishing you continued growth, understanding, and kindness on your journey.