A PERSONAL REFLECTION
Recent events—bizarre enough to demand reflection—have compelled me to look beyond the present moment and share these thoughts. Not to alarm, but to awaken. Too often, people fall victim to forces. These forces quietly benefit from your confusion. My deceased sister was such a victim. They gather what they themselves have not earned. It is also important to understand this truth: failed efforts are not always the result of yours.
There’s a difference.
I was once what you would call an Optimist. An optimistic person is one who has hope with courage. From my youth to the age I am now, I have always looked at the positive side of the bleakest of situations. Some thought I was too trusting. But that wasn’t it. You see, I understand people as I do my own demons, which allows me to see beyond a person’s actions. And so, I can show sympathy towards the actions of others.
But as life goes on, I’ve changed due to the actions of people, including my own family. And now, I am what you will call a Pessimist. Most times, I prepare for the worst due to indifference, and at times outright scorn, teaches lessons optimism alone cannot. Observation sharpens awareness, and awareness reveals patterns—often the same patterns that divide families, friendships, and professional relationships.
Speaking out against such dynamics is not aggression; it is protection. For those willing to listen, it may also serve as a warning.
Observation makes me aware of the games of the wicked ones. These games drive people insane and separate them from family, friends, and associates. My actions in speaking out serve as my protection. They provide a clue for those listening. This is a part of their game to destroy me.
Know this, our life is shaped less by our effort. It is shaped more by the psychology of the people closest to us. This influence is not limited to our family but includes those where you live, work, and play.
The danger?
If you stay around them long enough, you start doubting your own reality.
A CASE IN POINT
Some people don’t generate their own energy. They survive on yours.
Allow me to illustrate.
There’s a part of the brain called the insula, which helps form and protect beliefs. The brain reacts with instinct, not logic. When under stress, the body reroutes blood away from the prefrontal cortex. This area supports quick and logical reactions. As a result, you may be prevented from thinking clearly, even if you know better.
REALITY WITH A BIT OF HUMOR
Recently, I requested a replacement credit card after the original appeared to be missing. The search was done in every place it would have been. I was confident I had not left it behind anywhere. The new card arrived, was activated, and all seemed well.
At a Walmart store counter days later, I attempted to pay—only for the machine to decline the card repeatedly. Internally, my thoughts were far less polite than my outward demeanor. I briefly considered expressing my frustration, but my natural reluctance to attract public attention prevailed. I used another card and left, mildly irritated but composed.
The following day, while searching my wallet for a receipt, I discovered the “missing” card. It was quietly resting there as if it had been present all along. It was silently judging me. I immediately recognized it as the old card. The new one still had the activation sticker attached when it was placed in the wallet.
One moment, you’re confident in your memory. Next, you’re being stared down by a piece of plastic, questioning your grip on reality.
Without awareness, one day you wake not yourself anymore, but rather the poppet on their psychological string that satisfies their desires. Your reaction, which fed their twisted mental libido.
Look at the fatal stabbing at the Shoppers Drug Mart in downtown Toronto in December 2015 of the ultrasound technician on a break from her job. The accused claimed she was being controlled through “nanotechnology” devices in her body and someone had “hijacked” her body and carried out the assault. She was found not guilty of the death of the victim.
WHEN DOUBT BECOMES THE GOAL
The implication in such situations is clear: repeated doubt can be weaponized. The objective is not confusion—it is erosion. Label someone as forgetful, unreliable, or impaired often enough, and eventually they begin to question themselves.
Our brains form beliefs through repetition of seen actions and speech. That’s why slogans, headlines, and viral posts have so much power. When you hear something over and over, over time, our brain starts to accept it as truth, even without real proof. This leads to shrinking—psychologically and emotionally. Then to speak of your situation only to be ignored. You stop listening to other views and start reacting with anger fear or even hate. When scared you don’t think you react. That’s when you become the easiest to manipulate. Add incompatible medications, substances, or unaddressed health concerns, and vulnerability increases further.
This is why awareness is not optional—it is essential.
Carl Jung’s concept of the Shadow refers to the parts of ourselves we deny. Some individuals never confront their own shadow. Instead, they project it outward. They accuse others of selfishness, arrogance, or being “the problem,” when psychologically, they are describing themselves. Gradually, the recipient of these projections reorganizes their personality around constant defense against accusations that were never theirs. This process is exhausting.
We have to become awake and aware. Or every interaction will leave you drained. They don’t grow. They don’t change. They just feed.
THE COST OF DRAINED ENERGY
Your goals stall—not because you lack ability, but because your psychological energy is constantly siphoned away.
This depletion is often referred to as psychic energy—what we now call emotional and mental bandwidth. It is the internal force that fuels thought, emotion, and behavior.
Some people generate their own energy. Others survive by consuming the products of others.
And once a belief is in place, any challenge to it feels personal. Instead of changing your mind, your brain reacts emotionally and locks that belief in even more tightly. That’s why it is so hard to change someone’s mind. Without awareness, one risks becoming a puppet on another’s psychological strings. They may react in ways that feed unhealthy needs rather than serve their own growth.
You need this knowledge of self. Without it, you will continue to entertain the wicked ones. Their lack of this knowledge continues to destroy lives.
CONCLUSION: CHOOSE CONSCIOUS GROWTH
In closing, know this: emotional intelligence can be cultivated. Awareness of self, of others, and of one’s environment is the foundation of a meaningful life.
Our lives are shaped less by dramatic decisions and more by the quiet ones we make daily.
If this reflection resonates with you, stay awake. Stay aware of yourself, your associations, and your surroundings.
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