It’s often said, “Don’t burn the bridges you cross,” or “It’s a small world.” These sayings hold true for good reason. Life unfolds in its own timing, often beyond our understanding, and trusting this unseen order is essential. While we may make many plans, ultimately, it is a higher power that directs our steps. What we perceive as delays may actually be protection. Detours may serve as redirection. Endings often prepare us for new beginnings. Sometimes, people we haven’t seen in years reappear unexpectedly. The nature of your parting—whether joyful or awkward—depends on the circumstances. Ideally, every relationship ends amicably. Life has a way of bringing us back across bridges we once crossed. It’s much like a highway leading to an airstrip before taking flight.
The Importance of Familiarity
Navigating life can be complicated, much like following a road map. Familiarity with the route makes reaching your destination easier. The same applies to relationships. Shared memories and experiences help us recall places, events, and the nuances of those we once knew. We remember how people reacted to certain things, their likes and dislikes, and the moments we shared.
You may have heard, “Forge your way or pretend until you succeed.” However, pretending can only last so long. Eventually, the truth surfaces, and inconsistencies become apparent. This is why it’s important to leave all relationships on a friendly note.
The Authenticity of Photographs
Seasons change, and so do people. Over time, areas transform due to development, and humans evolve through experiences. As I reflected on my journey. I never imagined I would write about my life. Yet, here I am, inspired by a photograph sent by a longtime friend. It’s true—a picture tells a thousand words. Yet, when altered, it can mislead just like a falsified document.
Authenticity matters because truth leads us where it will, not necessarily where we want to go. History becomes important to know. This is especially true when crowds gather. They bask in the false light of being “right” and vilify those who refuse to join them. As Thomas Merton wisely said:
“”We desire not the truth, but rather that our lie should be proved ‘right’ and our iniquity be vindicated as ‘just.’ This is what we have done to pervert our natural, instinctive appetite for truth. No wonder we hate. No wonder we are violent.””
Indeed. Many prefer a comforting lie over the discomfort of truth, sometimes going to great lengths to keep the truth hidden. Standing firm in your truth can be challenging, but it is necessary.
The Stories We Carry
Just as photographs tell stories, so do the scars on our bodies. Each mark is a testament to our experiences. As I looked at the photograph taken years ago, before a mark appeared on my face. The memory takes me back to an apartment on Broadview Avenue in Toronto. The photographer was a student at that time. I was both partner and model.
Over time, the marks became more visible. I remember moving to another floor in the building I now occupy. On opening the balcony door, I felt something pierce my forehead. I rubbed the site and paid no further attention to a spot that remains to this day. For the next few days, I moved with a coworker’s help. From that first day. I thought the move would lead to a happier place. Instead, I endured bruises that eventually faded. However, incidents and disturbances from neighbors lingered. Parts of this story are shared in my memoir, “Until My Dying Day” by B. M. Lustol
Our appearance and attitude are shaped by our journey and experiences. Growth is not always appreciated by others, nor understood by partners. While change can be positive, not all changes are celebrated or praised by our Creator. Regardless, we are called to exercise love, justice, and kindness. We need to honor our parents. We must respect those in positions of authority and leadership.
In Closing
Truth is not always comforting; it can be rocky and unpredictable, refusing to show us what we expect. Yet we must keep walking by faith. It is the assured expectation of God’s vindication. God vindicates those who remain loyal to their truths. He is our witness. When you leave people behind, ensure it’s on a friendly note. You never know when you might need to reconnect, clarify an accusation, or resolve a situation. Leaving relationships on good terms keeps doors open. This allows truth to enter. It dispels falsehoods, even when others attempt to sow division through altered images or documents.
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. Your attention and openness to these reflections are truly appreciated. If you have thoughts or experiences to share, I welcome your perspective. Wishing you continued growth, understanding, and kindness on your journey.
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