“’Truly I say to you, unless you turn around and become as young children, you will not enter into the kingdom of the Heavens. You must be humble like a child.’”” Jesus said, to be humble just as a child. -Matthew 18:3-4.
Children are known to be curious. Curiosity is a good thing. It will motivate us to discover what is concealed behind an object, an appearance, or something said. They will move the object to uncover what is hidden. They will also question you until their desire to know is satisfied.
The other day I was on YouTube and came across a title of a podcast “Before Sucking a Vagina. Many do not know this! Wise advice from a 76-year-old elderly.” A message from Dr. Maya Angelo.
My curiosity moved me to touch play to hear what the content is all about. Now I am no expert on sex. However, I do know the desire of a woman, being one. When a woman is emotionally satisfied there is an inner peace that nothing can disrupt her sense of self-worth. She glows and flows with energy, creativity, positivity, joy, and kindness.
I positioned myself comfortably, put on the headphones and gave full attention to the podcast. Only to find out that the details covered my sister Patsy’s life in concluded observation of a suffered woman.
Violence comes from a dark place someone had no choice but to accept. Yes. Accepted because those in authority did not see clearly. They were blind sighted by the clever manipulation of the victim’s life. The victim was abandoned by loved ones, not of her own choosing. Unnurtured or misunderstood emotions can lead to reckless actions that hurt those with genuine love. If only the wicked one eventually recognizes their evil thoughts and malevolent actions, they may repent and cease their misdeeds. However, drugs and alcohol blind many individuals’ awareness of their weaknesses and flaws.
While packing away my sister’s history, I found her hidden shame of secrets. This hidden until the end. A woman talked much of others. She mostly spoke about her family mistakes and wants. It’s often said that when you point a finger, there’s nine pointing back at you. She had her own nine hidden mistakes and needs she concealed. She hid behind these while pretending to be emotionally strong and doing it all. When in fact, she was at death’s door. She being assisted by those who claimed to love her, but wanted her downfall. I am now understanding subtle words used during our conversations. How could someone be so cruel?
Patsy lived with a man who kept her emotionally trapped by his verbal abuse. He physically controlled her with his mental manipulation.
They both had many fools, making this statement to be truthful: What a fool sees or hears, a fool believes.
Earl’s family letters to him about my sister’s attitude painted a different picture of the person behind closed doors. And Patsy’s letters to Earl painted him differently to those who knew him in public. However, court documents and pictures tell the truth of the secrets held behind closed doors.
Help can only be given when someone asks. If they don’t ask, speaking on what is observed can make people defensive. Persistence may cause a breakdown of friendship or family closeness.
FACTS
Neuroscience is associated with our brain and nervous system. When the body does not receive the physical care it desires, a person becomes dissatisfied. If the mental state is threatened by external circumstances, they may also feel distressed. Such individuals are more prone to negative emotions such as anger, guilt, and depression.
It also supports the truth that when a person’s emotional safety is threatened, the body shifts into a protected state. This could be caused by criticism, a raised voice, or constant interruption during conversation, making physical closeness even harder. This is not because closeness is not needed; it is because the body is too guarded to receive it.
EMOTIONAL PAIN SEPARATES
My sister had experienced so much pain. She declined to give her attention to those she should have focused on, even in her time of need. I remember, one of her workers said, “Your sister wants to love you (he meant me. I was visiting at the time), but you will not let her.” Yes, she had become so emotionally difficult. I could not see a way to make her understand my wanting to be close. It was not for financial reasons. She knows from a youthful age I worked side by side with her, and that my independence fulfilled my values.
Her sense of self was shattered. She felt misunderstood and so closed off her emotional connection.
When a person is understood, the heart begins to open again. When the heart is open, physical closeness flows. It happens not out of obligation but as a natural confession of trust and emotional warmth.
Violence can be verbal or physical. Whether it comes from a woman or a man, it puts a veil between your desire and your need. The reason many choose to be single.
If you have been hurt during childhood or as an adult from physical or emotional abuse, consider your situation in this way. Life’s journey is like a winding road. It leads to self-discovery of beautiful experiences or regretful ones. Either way, you are now wiser because of the experiences given.
However, before coming to awareness others will hurt you from words thrown into actions done. You will have many days of emotions that will want you to give up, but you must be strong. I have been there. Do not satisfy the wicked ones attempt to move you to self-destruction. Try to reach out to others for support. It will be difficult, trust me. When there is an abundance of [experience] wisdom, there is an abundance of vexation. He that increases in knowledge also increases in pain. -Ecclesiastes1:18.
At the time of Jesus’ crucifixion his last words before he expired was, “Father, forgive them for they do not know what they have done.”
It is the same sentiment as those who continue to fight against violence.
Unless the wicked ones attain a state of self-awareness, they will remain affected by an inner mental psychological disorder. Which can be from a dream that occurs in wakefulness, their minds too weak to control, they give into the force that actuates the thoughts.
WHAT CAN BE DONE?
It can take a lifetime to recognize one’s inadequacies and weaknesses, understanding one’s identity, and knowing one’s inner world. This is where true friendships come in to assist. A friend who is liken to a brother in times of need.
UNEVENLY YOKE
Before making a decision to live with someone or marry them, take time to get to know them. If your situation calls for such a decision, talk to a family member. Speak to a good friend about your decision before making such a move.
My sister married to secure a visa.
Violence is not pretty, and no one should remain silent. I urge all those like me and my sister who have endured violence to stand up, speak up, and walk out. Today’s society has shelters for individuals experiencing abuse. A person had the strength to fight for others, lacked the strength needed in the battle for her life.
In memory of my dear sister, until we meet again, Rest in Peace!
For our young men and adults follow the link below, to understanding a woman’s desire….
- https://youtu.be/d71he6IF6gs?si=96czoCjPQqn8Uy_c
- For those in need of help follow links below for, Street Haven at The Crossroads
- www.streetheaven.or
- Sanctuary for Families
https://g.co/kgs/1ab6pYV - Phone No.: 1212-349-6009
- North York Women’s Shelter
https://nyws.ca/
Better The End 