Embracing Failure: A Path to Learning and Success

REFLECTION

It was a very tiring day. I saw the destruction of some through my own personal experience, and due to technology and science, the meaning of failure came to mind. 

Failure, in my opinion, is just another opportunity to succeed at our best. The journey of learning never ends.  Failure isn’t defeat unless we allow it to define us.  Every situation in life comes to teach us something.  It is up to each one to look for the question being asked or the answer being given.  When the question or answer is ascertained, we can go forward with enlightenment in achieving our goal or handling a situation.

Understanding the difficulties life throws at you when you are consumed with matters that require your attention daily, especially when working for others, is challenging. Unless time is taken to relax and reflect, putting the pieces together is like being mentally confused about finding your way out or how to solve the issue.

When we distance ourselves from an issue, understanding comes. Sometimes, the difficulties others cause in our lives are the only way they know how to communicate. Is it out of love, hate, or confusion? This is the question we must ask ourselves when facing a problem; most of the time, the answer is found. 

The question, “Is it me?” is irrelevant. Of course, it is you. Now, whatever issues are being filtered within their thoughts, your interruption, presence, or question is a twist in mental navigation that the person would rather avoid, as their trend of thought is to accomplish a goal of their own or one of the force’s intentions.

In the world we live in today, everyone wants to be seen more than those wanting to be heard.  The fact that they want to be seen is what needs to be kept in mind so as not to embarrass oneself in public by reacting to their actions, whatever that may be.  If a reaction is required, do so with respect that shows your own.

I want to give you an idea of the day that was so mentally tiring.

I had an exam scheduled for a specific time. I woke up on time to take the transit into an area I was not familiar with. Exiting the building and heading towards the main street, I first noticed a fellow with a camera. I am very shy and hate drawing attention to myself. Again, the world today doesn’t ask if they can take a picture; they take one anyway to use as they please and hope not to be caught. I quickly walked past, giving the gentleman a good morning smile. When I got to the main street, the bus arrived. I boarded, tapped my card, and was driven to the subway station to catch a train.

Finally, in the area, I asked for directions. I repeated the bus number and was told that it was correct. After letting the driver know where I was going, I hopped onto the bus with the number given.

Minutes later, he pulled away and stopped to chat with a co-worker. Everyone on the bus was then told to take the other. However, before getting off, I inquired if the other driver was going my way. “Yes, he is.” I thanked him and boarded the other bus. In about ten minutes, I thought he pulled away from the station on the way to my destination. When I finally got up to ask how long I would be at my destination, I was told I was on the wrong bus. After a briefing about my disappointment, I exited with instructions. Fortunately, I returned to ask the young man sitting in the bus shed if he could call a cab. After briefly explaining my situation, I was told a bus would arrive shortly and take me to my destination. The bus came, we got in, and I was driven to the wrong campus.

What was supposed to be a peaceful day, with the anticipation of completing my exam and finally relaxing, turned into a series of unexpected challenges and frustrations.

A bus was seen waiting at the stop when I got out of the building, so I began to run, only to find out the driver was not there. I took out my phone and checked the map’s direction; it would take me about 40 mins. Time was not going to be on my side. So, the student who came onto the bus earlier, I asked if he had the Uber app on his phone so he could call me a cab. As he was about to do so, the bus driver arrived. In a panic, I asked if she could give me just one minute after briefly explaining my situation. “No problem, go ahead.” I rushed back to the young man and told him to tell the driver where I’d be standing. “It will be twelve dollars and change,” he said.

“No problem,” I responded as I rushed to get off the bus so as not to inconvenience the driver. “Thank you,” I said, now off the bus as she closed the door and pulled off.

I am standing there waiting in a panic, sweat running down my face. “Darn wig, I am so hot,” I echoed within thought. “I should have had my hair done.” The phone started to ring. It was the cab driver who did not see me. I waved my hand as I spoke to him on a second call. I got into the cab and told him where I wanted to go. I briefly explained my situation and the importance of getting to the location on time.

The phone started to ring. “Hello,” I answered.

“This is….” He gave his name and reminded me about the cost, letting me know he paid and how to get the funds to him.

“I am so sorry. Thank you so much. I was thinking that I would be paying the cab driver instead. I am so sorry.”

“No problem. I’ll send you the information.”

“Really, I am sorry, and thank you so much.”

In trying to get the information put into my bank’s request, I had a problem. My mind was now in chaos, and my thoughts were another. “What time do you have?” I asked, then responded, “Could you please hurry? That will be good if I arrive at least five minutes before the time.” While I tried to key in the information again, I was still experiencing a problem. At this point, I was frustrated and wanted to give up. The driver stopped the cab.

“We are here, thank you.” I took five dollars from my pants pocket, got out of the cab, and began to walk and run into the building. I didn’t know where I was going, so I stopped to ask the girl at the desk, who pointed as she spoke about where I needed to go.

In a state of panic, I began to walk and run. I made one turn and then another, only to find the door closed. My Heart sank. I moved to another open door, only to find the room filled with seated students. “I am so sorry,” I said as I walked in, feeling nervous, sweating, and completely out of breath.

“May I have your ID?” she asked.

“Sure!” I fished it out of my pants pocket and handed it to her. After filling out the information on the form, I was instructed where to put my belongings. She assisted me in filling out the top sheet I needed to hand in. I thanked her and walked briskly towards the back of the room, put down my backpack, and returned to where she was. I took my seat, feeling like I was having an out-of-body experience. My body was trembling, and so were my hands when I went to pick up the pencil. “I am so nervous.”

“I know,” she said. “Relax, breathe in and out. You will be fine.”

It was easy for her to say, but what I was experiencing was far from being mentally relaxed. Moments into the exam, I was interrupted as I read the question for understanding. I looked up at the teacher, a bit angry, as I was honestly trying to calm my thoughts.

“You need to be quiet,” she whispers.

I nodded in agreement with the thought. Are you kidding me? It was as if the force had opened her ear channel wider for sounds. It never ends everywhere I go. At that moment, it was as if a window to my mind had just opened, and all the information I had stored from studying night and day had gone with the wind.

I looked down at the paper in front of me, and the last thing I needed was to be reading someone else’s story to give them an answer. I wanted to leave the room, especially when my calculator was not giving me what I was looking for. Still, some unknown force kept me seated as I read each question, forcing my mind to recall what I had studied. As the teacher called attention to the time remaining, I became restless, not knowing if I’d be able to finish all the questions. “Close your eyes and pick an answer,” I recall the coach saying during one of my pre-study classes; the action I took when the teacher announced, “You have two more minutes.”

One part was over.

I returned to the room, and the students were seated before me. Again, I was seen as the one late when I arrived this time, five minutes before the start. Once again, I was asked for my ID. I knew it was placed in my pant pocket, but I would not find my ID until the end of class, doing another search through the cards in my pockets.

“I knew you had it; that’s why I told you not to bother. Just take a seat.”

This was the end of my day. I was hungry, having not eaten all day, mentally drained from navigating my thoughts, and aware that my return home would not be peaceful.

I would like to conclude by saying the willingness to learn is a choice we are all given. Each day provides us with signs or shows us situations of others; take from what is seen and shown, and inculcate the good points into your lives for advancement. The ability to learn is a skill, wrote Brian Herbert. Indeed, it is.

Therefore, don’t give up on yourself; nurture your mind with others’ knowledge through their experiences. The good book states that knowledge is for protection. The more we learn, the better we handle situations and wicked people. Besides, man’s wrath does not work out God’s righteousness. –James 1:20.

Therefore, as you move forward, remember each letter in the word failure, which will guide your reaction to actions.

F— FACTS needed to be recalled that must be,

A— ADDED to memory. So, take a bit of time to meditate.

I— INFORMATION, is key, we need to have it and to retain.

L— LEARNING any new skill takes time for…

U— UNDERSTANDING how to navigate life’s unforeseen circumstances, composed of twists and turns we must go through to get to our destination. And when we become overwhelmed by a situation,

R— REMEMBER, relax by breathing in and out for calm and clarity when handling each twist and turn. For…

E— EACH turn on the road travel will leave experiences that add to our happiness.

Further, failure is another opportunity to move forward from past defeats. Mastering any task requires time, dedication, and focus; we must remember this. Rome was not built in a day, nor were dreams realized overnight.

Understanding Emotional Pain and Healing

“’Truly I say to you, unless you turn around and become as young children, you will not enter into the kingdom of the Heavens. You must be humble like a child.’”” Jesus said, to be humble just as a child. -Matthew 18:3-4.

Children are known to be curious. Curiosity is a good thing. It will motivate us to discover what is concealed behind an object, an appearance, or something said. They will move the object to uncover what is hidden. They will also question you until their desire to know is satisfied.

The other day I was on YouTube and came across a title of a podcast “Before Sucking a Vagina. Many do not know this! Wise advice from a 76-year-old elderly.”  A message from Dr. Maya Angelo.

My curiosity moved me to touch play to hear what the content is all about. Now I am no expert on sex. However, I do know the desire of a woman, being one. When a woman is emotionally satisfied there is an inner peace that nothing can  disrupt her sense of self-worth. She glows and flows with energy, creativity, positivity, joy, and kindness.

I positioned myself comfortably, put on the headphones and gave full attention to the podcast. Only to find out that the details covered my sister Patsy’s life in concluded observation of a suffered woman.

Violence comes from a dark place someone had no choice but to accept. Yes. Accepted because those in authority did not see clearly. They were blind sighted by the clever manipulation of the victim’s life. The victim was abandoned by loved ones, not of her own choosing. Unnurtured or misunderstood emotions can lead to reckless actions that hurt those with genuine love. If only the wicked one eventually recognizes their evil thoughts and malevolent actions, they may repent and cease their misdeeds. However, drugs and alcohol blind many individuals’ awareness of their weaknesses and flaws.

While packing away my sister’s history, I found her hidden shame of secrets. This hidden until the end. A woman talked much of others. She mostly spoke about her family mistakes and wants. It’s often said that when you point a finger, there’s nine pointing back at you. She had her own nine hidden mistakes and needs she concealed. She hid behind these while pretending to be emotionally strong and doing it all. When in fact, she was at death’s door. She being assisted by those who claimed to love her, but wanted her downfall. I am now understanding subtle words used during our conversations. How could someone be so cruel?

Patsy lived with a man who kept her emotionally trapped by his verbal abuse. He physically controlled her with his mental manipulation.

They both had many fools, making this statement to be truthful: What a fool sees or hears, a fool believes.

Earl’s family letters to him about my sister’s attitude painted a different picture of the person behind closed doors. And Patsy’s letters to Earl painted him differently to those who knew him in public. However, court documents and pictures tell the truth of the secrets held behind closed doors.

Help can only be given when someone asks. If they don’t ask, speaking on what is observed can make people defensive. Persistence may cause a breakdown of friendship or family closeness.

FACTS

Neuroscience is associated with our brain and nervous system. When the body does not receive the physical care it desires, a person becomes dissatisfied. If the mental state is threatened by external circumstances, they may also feel distressed. Such individuals are more prone to negative emotions such as anger, guilt, and depression.

It also supports the truth that when a person’s emotional safety is threatened, the body shifts into a protected state. This could be caused by criticism, a raised voice, or constant interruption during conversation, making physical closeness even harder. This is not because closeness is not needed; it is because the body is too guarded to receive it.

EMOTIONAL PAIN SEPARATES

My sister had experienced so much pain. She declined to give her attention to those she should have focused on, even in her time of need. I remember, one of her workers said, “Your sister wants to love you (he meant me. I was visiting at the time), but you will not let her.”  Yes, she had become so emotionally difficult. I could not see a way to make her understand my wanting to be close. It was not for financial reasons. She knows from a youthful age I worked side by side with her, and that my independence fulfilled my values.

Her sense of self was shattered. She felt misunderstood and so closed off her emotional connection.

When a person is understood, the heart begins to open again. When the heart is open, physical closeness flows. It happens not out of obligation but as a natural confession of trust and emotional warmth.

Violence can be verbal or physical. Whether it comes from a woman or a man, it puts a veil between your desire and your need. The reason many choose to be single.

If you have been hurt during childhood or as an adult from physical or emotional abuse, consider your situation in this way. Life’s journey is like a winding road. It leads to self-discovery of beautiful experiences or regretful ones. Either way, you are now wiser because of the experiences given.

However, before coming to awareness others will hurt you from words thrown into actions done. You will have many days of emotions that will want you to give up, but you must be strong. I have been there.  Do not satisfy the wicked ones attempt to move you to self-destruction. Try to reach out to others for support. It will be difficult, trust me. When there is an abundance of [experience] wisdom, there is an abundance of vexation. He that increases in knowledge also increases in pain. -Ecclesiastes1:18.

At the time of Jesus’ crucifixion his last words before he expired was, “Father, forgive them for they do not know what they have done.”

It is the same sentiment as those who continue to fight against violence.

Unless the wicked ones attain a state of self-awareness, they will remain affected by an inner mental psychological disorder. Which can be from a dream that occurs in wakefulness, their minds too weak to control, they give into the force that actuates the thoughts.

WHAT CAN BE DONE?

It can take a lifetime to recognize one’s inadequacies and weaknesses, understanding one’s identity, and knowing one’s inner world. This is where true friendships come in to assist.  A friend who is liken to a brother in times of need.

UNEVENLY YOKE

Before making a decision to live with someone or marry them, take time to get to know them. If your situation calls for such a decision, talk to a family member. Speak to a good friend about your decision before making such a move.

My sister married to secure a visa.

Violence is not pretty, and no one should remain silent. I urge all those like me and my sister who have endured violence to stand up, speak up, and walk out. Today’s society has shelters for individuals experiencing abuse. A person had the strength to fight for others, lacked the strength needed in the battle for her life.

In memory of my dear sister, until we meet again, Rest in Peace!

For our young men and adults follow the link below, to understanding a woman’s desire….

BEFORE YOU SAY I DO

SPRING IS THE BEGINNING OF WEDDING BELLS.

MARRIAGE…it is a beautiful union of two individuals who genuinely love each other.

Before you say I do, get to know each other as much as possible during the dating period. During marriage, both men and women are anxious for the things of the world. Paul wrote on how each may gain the approval of the other. This scripture is still true to this day. 

HOLDING IT TOGETHER

A house or an apartment is not a home when there’s no one there. Being there for each other will call for strength in the days we are now living. Keeping things together calls for some financial wealth. Due to some racist attitudes and political bias, those in hiring positions cause undue stress on job seekers. This stress affects those trying to fulfill family responsibilities or assist with household financial needs.  Moving one or both, to start their own business using the skills they have.  If this is the case, listen to each other’s ideas.  Present the advantages versus the disadvantages, discuss the expenses, and your combined financial assets before your move. 

Keep in mind it is not unusual to find women of today exhibiting more of a masculine attitude.  This may be due to her upbringing having to carry the burden of the parents’ responsibilities.  So, in adulthood, the take-charge attitude is seen as more dominant within her marriage.  The man’s upbringing may be the same.  This is why it is very important, before saying, I do take you as my wife or husband, that a discussion on as many topics is done.  Each with an understanding of what they will need to work on.  Keeping in mind that it will not be easy. Marriage is a give and take. As an example, there will be times of anger when one is forced to speak. That’s the time one is taking.

The most important thing in all relationships is the acknowledgement of God.  Trust in Him who performed the first marriage.  With His guidance, your relationship or marriage will always be at peace.  For it is written: You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You.  Peace, he trusts in you. -Isaiah 26:3.

Consider your responsibility in marriage. Think of it as having God as the mediator between you and your partner. This mediator is God and His word. His words will relieve the stressful situations most marriages have to endure these days. Yes, by looking into His words and praying, He will guide you.

Please read me, for what I am about to write, it is of importance. We are living at a time when the spirit forces are very active. One may hear a whisper in a dream. Awake to see the reality of what was seen in a dream occurring before your very eyes, or in some cases hear of it.  Do investigate.  Not all things are real, and not all things heard are true. All these things happened in the days of Jesus. Today, technology is more advanced and people are more wicked than in those days.  Peace among us involves communication and loving kindness. The bible did warn of this so that we would be prepared to stand firm for Jehovah’s kingdom.  A world prepared for us to inhabit.  

My entry, your entry, and our entry depend on obedience to God’s counsel. They also depend on mutual respect. We must exercise our rights in a fair and balanced manner. Additionally, love for each other is crucial.

So, before you say, “I do take this woman or man to be my wedded partner,” be sure you have resolved in your heart that marriage is what you truly want.

Marriage is a serious commitment to each other. It is not a game, to play with each other as if a toy. Both individuals are humans made of flesh and blood, exhibiting emotions, thoughts, intuition, and sensation. All of which need each other to nurture, care, and receive attention.

May your days be happy with the man or woman of your choosing. Remember to be spontaneous and creative. Laughter is good for the soul. Laugh with and at each other, funny words or deeds.

Some Bridal shops to check out for your big day.

Peter’s Denial: Lessons on Faith and Truth

This Sunday, April 20, 2025, many will gather at various religious organizations to pay respect for Jesus’ sacrifice on behalf of the world. At home, families will celebrate the Last Supper with elaborate meals. Others will give to charities or invite the poor for a meal in remembrance of Jesus’ death.

My mother taught me dignity when she invited the poor for a meal on Easter Sunday.  It never occurs often; I have only seen this act of charity twice, which I can recall.   We were among the poor, but a little better off financially.

I was christened a Catholic and baptized as a Witness in my young adult years. I can recall the Easter Sundays when I went to church to celebrate the Last Supper. After the Priest sermon, many will form a line towards the altar. Each person kneels before the Priest. He makes the sign of the cross before putting a wafer on our tongues.

The truth is, I never was thought the full story of Jesus’ journey and the meaning of his sacrifice until I started studying the Bible, and attending meetings with my second sister, who was affiliated with the Jehovah’s Witness kingdom hall.

During my childhood, I attended other religious organizations, such as Temples. Taken to the facilities by a white woman, of whose name I cannot recall. And the truth is, I do not know the relationship she had with my parents. This would be my mother, as my dad was mostly traveling, being a fisherman and all. I do not know the relationship she had with the white woman or her with the family.

“A faithful witness will not lie, but a false witness launches forth mere lies.” -Proverbs 14:5

Lies come from the stem of fear.  Fear is an emotion characterized by dread or expectation of harm.  In my Review of the account in Luke 22, which tells of the Last Supper.  A question I answered.

Peter said he was willing to go to prison or die for Jesus.  Jesus did inform him that a Rooster would not crow until he had denied knowing him three times.  And to Jesus’ word Peter proved right.

Do keep in mind that Peter is only human, and his experience with Jesus. Peter’s witness of Jesus’ arrest not only put doubt in his mind. It also diminished Peter’s boldness to admit he knew Jesus.  He was not willing to lose his life. This proves Peter’s lack of faith and confidence in Jesus’ protection of him. 

Before him stood the man he knew. This man healed the sick, cured the blind, and raised the dead. He was now standing before a mob. They were mistreating him by pulling on his beard, spitting on him, and hitting him. Yet, he just stood there, not defending himself.  This terrible, frightful sight forced Peter to deny knowing Jesus. While he was still speaking on his third admission, “Man I do not know what you are saying.” At this moment, the Rooster crowed, and Jesus turned and looked at him.  Peter immediately came to his senses, ashamed of his action, and left the area in tears.

This passage also brings to light God’s word about where two or three are gathered, “I am there.” It also shows that in a court of law, the word of one witness must be corroborated by another. This is necessary to prove a point. In Peter’s case, there were three claims against him. In Jesus’ case, many were witnesses of his works. However, high officials’ operative agenda was to keep the word from spreading and the people suppress by ignorance.

This passage in Luke 22: 55-62 reminded me of a situation between my sister and me.  With her own eyes she witnesses an ornament I picked up from the shelf, as I walked to the doorway. In the heat of anger, I told her not to dare raise her hand at me. At that moment, the figurine in my hand shattered to pieces. This had surprised me as I am sure it did to her. An incident that proves the strength anger and love has to move obstacles. Months later, she called me a liar during a conversation. She then brought forth a figurine that resembled the broken one.  My response is not to continue arguing; just let her know she was calling God a liar. Was it fear holding her back from admitting the truth?  My answer without confirmation is yes. She will bear the consequences for whatever reason she holds back from admitting the truth. Those guilty of their actions against the truth will also face consequences.

The account of Peter proves that Love will not allow the conscience to deny a truth for long.  It will take a minute. A day, or a year [with men, years] for the word of the spirit to prove a fact.  Eventually, this brings death sooner to those who continue to deny the truth.

Jehovah is not slow respecting his promises. He is patient with us. He allows each one to turn around and repent from a wicked course. 

Jealousy breeds a person’s wickedness. They desire to end a beneficial or good process of progress for a person or people. This is what the Pharisees wanted in Jesus’ case. He had to be silent from opening the eyes of those who were blind in an intellectual sense. 

To remain silent or boldly speak out comes from inner truths and beliefs.  Jesus’ silence showed that strength is not always flashy, but in one’s calm and quiet disposition.

Thus. This Sunday, April 20, 2025, those who decide to partake in the wafer, which signifies Jesus’ body, are called to reflect. The wine signifies His blood. Be sure, my dear ones, that you have resolved the truth within your hearts.  For it is written: Do not be misled. God is not one to be mocked. Whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. – Galatians 6:7.

The account with my sister is in my Memoir.  In the book Part Two, Chapter 7, the reason for my partaking in the evening meal is given.  The title is Until My Dying Day by B. M. Lustol, published by Dorrance Publishing Company.  To order your copy, call 1800-788-7654.

http://www.dorrancebookstore.com

Additional reading: Proverbs 4:10, Isaiah 29

Understanding Family Beyond Blood Ties

FAMILIES…families are not just our immediate blood relatives. Families consist of close friends/ or friends and those you associate with regularly, once love prevails. The word extends because of our spiritual connection. It also includes those with whom we have a close psychological connection over the years.

I live in an apartment building. Over the years, I eventually ignored the game played on me by those above and next to my unit. I became wise to their actions in greater attempt that causes me to speak out as if a person mentally insane. I had fallen into their manipulated game. They wanted others to perceive me as they dictated. I had delivered.

Over the years, I hoped their actions would stop. Unfortunately, logic fails to dismantle madness no matter how one tries. For example, the one whose mental faculty is in tack and knows what he or she wants to accomplish, so it is with those gone mad. The difference is that madness does not know right from wrong.

My observations cause me to pay more than the usual attention to my life from what they were attempting to do. I had already lost privacy on my electronics as did my movement within my unit. I had nothing more to lose except my life. Therefore, I hope that through my written work and in my speaking , it will behoove some of you to action.

Wisdom and Understanding are essential. One without the other can damage others, as it will to oneself at some point in one’s life.

Today, more than ever, there is so much information that individuals can find to educate themselves that the word ‘don’t know’ will be seldom used amongst those who live to learn. Anyone without knowledge can search the Internet, YouTube, and books to find the required subject knowledge. 

This scripture, found in Ecclesiastes 12, verse 12, is proving to be true not only for books but also for the many written programs available today. If we are not careful, our minds will become overloaded with information, sending some of us mentally insane, as it has already done to some. Balance is the key.

Someone called me the other day regarding a link I sent to them. I was in pain when the call came in. I did not want to answer, as anyone knows, when the body is in pain, the last thing you need is someone bothering you, especially with negative comments. After I hung up, I replayed our conversation.  Because I was in so much pain, I ended the conversation and in writing this piece, wished I had called her attention to the scriptures mentioned below.  Sometimes pain causes loss of thoughts

I am a person who loves to read and listen to what others have to say on topics of interest, or on a topic that reminds me of conversations with others.

A link that enlightens us about our transformation in life and after death, according to the speaker’s experience, out of care, and for the individual better understanding of the force that moves us, I thought of sharing. More profoundly, some of the speaker’s words resonated with my personal experience. Spiritual experiences were given as I still understand my being.

Many of you may have read Until My Dying Day by B.M. Lustol, published by Dorrance Publishing Company. That memoir speaks about the writer’s spiritual journey. So, when I picked up the phone and inquired about her health, the first thing out of her mouth was not to send her anything like what I did. Her words were like another stone my enemies were throwing at me.

I expected kindness, not jealousy, heard in her voice. The person whom I speak is my sister. The book includes chapters on our interactions and my observations of her life.

Books are a passageway of getting to know others, and so are podcasts of thoughts expressed by certain individuals on YouTube.

The Bible presents various events described in Psalms chapter 78, detailing interactions between Jehovah and his people, who did not accept him. They did not put faith in him nor trust salvation by him. They had become backward in direction and not forward. Some people were unafraid then, and they remain so today. I guess you could say this is due to lack of knowledge of God. His acts of forgiveness, graciousness, chastisement, a God merciful, slow to anger and abundant in loving kindness. A God who is patient because he does not want to destroy the one he created for a purpose, but one who will exercise justice in his own time, should be feared and respected.

Some individuals have reported instances of kindness and will share their experiences such as in a podcast or books.

Jehovah is a God of the living and not of the dead. Although faithful ones in the past have died, today they speak through faithful ones; those who have come to have accurate knowledge of Him and his requirements. Experiences of such ones related are spiritual guidance for lovers of Jehovah. 

Those who are among the living are to advance in knowledge, for when we die, there is no further room for knowledge; we go to sleep to rise again at the sound of his call.

In the meantime, our experiences encourage those who listen to gain strength in the face of adversity, to get up and move forward. Experiences tell, enlighten our knowledge, and let us know there is more this life has to offer through our interaction with others. 

First Corinthians, chapter fourteen, verse one, tells us to pursue love, yet keep seeking spiritual gifts, preferably that you may prophesy.  And in Chapter Twelve of the same book, it talks about the gifts we each have, gifted by the Holy Spirit. Allowing us to see that wisdom is acquired through association with others spiritually or religiously inclined.

Hear again, not all teachings are beneficial for the soul, especially from those who do not know God.  One reason the Bible was preserved down to this day.  Another reason is that we are given a conscience to distinguish between right and wrong.  

Jehovah hears and sees his peoples’ cries.  Was there a reason behind Jehovah’s act of language separation? Of course. His angels spoke different languages. In his image we were created.  And our existence he forward through languages the desire to live to learn.  He himself referred to us as gods. Yes, through the angels’ reports he is confirmed of our actions on this planet.

The Bible, a book of our ancestors’ struggles, given prophecies, jealousies, love, betrayals, deceptions, and Jehovah’s wars, accepted morals and principles are all there for our guidance into his promised New World.  The Bible’s content of reminders is for us to inculcate into our hearts and minds so as not to forget where we come from as we move forward, respecting Him, the one who created and is capable of our existence.

Therefore, to my dear sister, I believe in, I love God, and choose to walk in his way.

To all my readers, may you have Peace.

For additional reading and insight, follow the link and information below.

2 Timothy 2:22,   Ecclesiastes 12:14.

https://youtu.be/wjs06y8vRZY?si=0BOGrFHIJ-vzkiWo: Understanding Family Beyond Blood Ties

Transform Your Mind: Navigating the Internet’s Chaos

Recently I was surfing the internet.  In my opinion, it is a war zone of traffic.  I had mapped out my destination before logging in.  Liken to getting into a car and starting the engine.  I logged in to begin my journey.  Before long, my curiosity lured me off track. I was drawn in by sites with provocative and not so lewd advertisements.  I went from one site to the next. Some had positive messages that enhanced my intellect. Others put a smile on my face or made me laugh out loud with their comical content.

The anger seen is out of control. It took me back to the Bible’s account in Genesis 11:7-9. That was when Jehovah materialized Himself and visited our world that had gone out of control. I was reminded of that account. I was also brought back to the reality of our mental state as a nation globally. People on a global scale whose behavior is brutally competitive and selfishly aggressive actions and comments towards others are enough to cause some to end their lives.

There’s a saying that when a finger is pointed at someone, nine are pointed back at you. That statement is long forgotten, as the war on the internet is coming from a place of hurt, that states: I don’t care. Do you?

Well, it seems that many do care. However, they are confused. Their actions come from a place of hurt in innocence, and they speak unaware of a mind psychologically troubled. People are confused to the point that respect is lost. This respect is lost from actions seen by those who dispense law and order. It extends to those who are the leaders of a country and to the churches that most look to for their spiritual upbuilding.

Be aware of the player’s move and adjust your attitude.

This brings me to mention our youths. What is the image, the vision of the world we are building for our young ones when they hear vulgarity and see the disrespect given to others? I beg to ask the question: Is it love or hate? A show of wit and courage? Or am I living for today, for who knows if I’ll see tomorrow?

The world needs a transformation of minds.  It starts with (each one) you and me, committing ourselves.

It will call for strength, as it will be a long journey.  A journey that will call for self-control as each navigates the road of circumstances that you will be led to.  Situations that will be manipulated will call for patience.  And eyes that are not deceived by appearances.  For the one wise, he is the one who will look past appearances to the expression of words.

Words move our emotions, for better or worse. Appreciating the revelation of what was spoken requires meditation.

When Jesus had it recorded in Colossians 3:5, telling us to deaden our body members that are upon the earth as respect fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite, hurtful desires, and covetousness, which is idolatry. In verse seven the apostle Paul wrote: You once walked in those very things. You used to live in them.

None of us are without sinful desires of words or deeds.

We need to meditate on the Bible’s counsel of morals to transform our minds. This transformation will, in turn, transform our bodies. The stories of our ancestors that shed light on our actions.

There is no doubt that changes need to be implemented.  Doing so will eliminate the stress that most people feel or are under regardless of power or position.

It is time that those consumed by anger take a step back and rethink their action/s.  For actions taken in anger rarely benefit the doer. 

As an example of a trouble mind. Take the recent news of Elon Musk’s Tesla cars being set a fire. One man’s anger is not logical, that by causing another’s financial hardship, his own worsens. Musk’s presence in the White House whose actions are out of love for country. I can hear the sighs from some of you who just read that sentence. Seriously, logic should tell you, it is not about filling his pocket with (the thinking of a majority), with the monies saved. It is about a country avoiding a deficit. The deficit could become so large it outnumbers the entire United States of America. Only those with money will not care about the compensation due to each citizen when retired or about to retire in a few years, or those crippled in one capacity or the other.

We need a transformation of minds; only then the stress we inflict on others will stop. Be kind to self.  Do unto others as you would like done to you, were the tables turn.

None of us can avoid God’s wrath.  He allows all things under the sun to take place for a time.  This time allows each to transform their personality into a better person.

Now’s the time!

Please follow the link below to adapt principles so nothing can affect you. Learn how having insight into our being will significantly change our actions. Be sure to leave a comment. I would really like to hear your point of view on both links.

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RUMORS OF WAR

LOVE OR HATE

When we see or hear the word ‘Breaking News,’ our ears become attentive to hear what it is. Our eyes also open a bit wider and focus on seeing what it is or who is being spoken of. As of lately there have been much breaking news that calls for attention.

For a beginner, Trump’s imposed tariffs has seen the stock market plummet.

The Wall Street Journal has called for Donald Trump to be sued to prevent tariffs being imposed on Canada and Mexico. The newspaper’s editorial board wrote in very blunt terms that Trump did not have the power to order the tariffs without Congressional approval. Yet he did.

Well, Canada will not sit down like Ukraine and accept such disrespect. It takes one to listen before responding, even if the other has the upper hand. Hooray to Mr. Ford for working alongside Trudeau’s encouragement for Canadians to stand and fight for the economy’s sovereignty. The way Democracy should work. “Until the threat of tariffs is gone for good, Ontario won’t back down. We’ll stand strong, use every tool in our toolkit, and do whatever it takes to protect Ontarians,” insisted Mr. Dogg Ford, whose 25% export on electricity tariffs went full speed ahead today, March 11, 2025.

The Chinese investor’s secret stakes in Elon Musk’s private companies raised concerns about Beijing’s influence in American politics. With Musk’s involvement, do Americans have cause for concern? You bet (we) all do. What is going on in the States will affect Canadians—we are business partners.

And on February 28, 2025. Musk urges retired air traffic controllers to resume work, citing a shortage of staff. Is he for real? When a person retires, it’s because the body has reached a physical level of strain. This requires a person to slow down or completely retire from the workforce in the future. Musk must have a strategic financial package in his thoughts when requesting a return.

Snoop Dogg Expands Marijuana Empire Again. Old but current news. According to the press members, the new line of Blunts delivers a slow and smooth burn. I can only imagine what went on backstage with the press members to express such words of invitation.

As Snoop confirmed, ‘“I’ve been rolling Blunts for decades, so I know what it takes to make them perfect.’” Snoop has remained a cultural icon in the cannabis community as the drug has grown more mainstream, and he’s referenced marijuana in songs and other performances for decades

It questions President Trump’s extended invitation to attend the inauguration ball. Then, he signed an executive order declaring English the official language of the United States, which has some critics scratching their heads as to why they cast a vote. This reverses a policy from the Clinton administration.

And that was not enough to stop there. The New York Times publishes the list of words deemed banned by the Trump administration agencies (https://lnkd.in/eOJqT2Wq)

What will remain in the United States regarding the capacity to think? Is there an underlining suggestion from Mr. Vance statement, “I want to have more babies in the White House?” I am telling you all that Mr. Trump and some members of his administration are on a slow, smooth burn that will drag the country into madness, which will only lead to more division within households and business relationships.

“The order, signed a few weeks ago, gives federal agencies and organizations receiving federal funds the autonomy to decide whether to continue offering services and documents in languages other than English.”

‘”While the White House argues that this move ‘”promotes unity, establishes efficiency in government operations, and creates a pathway for civic engagement,”‘ critics view it as a divisive tactic fueling fear and hindering access to essential services and democratic participation. ‘”Establishing English as the official language will not only streamline communication but also reinforce shared national values, and create a more cohesive and efficient society,'” the order said.'”

Who says Trump is not god-fearing? Apparently, he is undoing what God did in the beginning recorded at Genesis 11. In that city, God named Babel. There, God confused the language of all that scattered them from there over the entire face of the earth.

We just need to exercise patience. Rome was not built in a day. It is written that one needs to keep his enemy close to him. Musk, Perhaps? The man has some excellent ideas. Clearing the frauds that were going on will indeed save money. He promised to sack only those who were not doing their job, provide benefits to the unemployed, and deal with Medicare fairly. However, some will be hurt by the move. Canada ought to take a page from their policy.

Benjamin Franklin once wrote: Tell me, and I forget.  Teach me, and I remember.  Involve me, and I learn.

DRUG’S DANGER

Cannabis impairs psychomotor performance in a wide variety of tasks, such as motor coordination and operative tasks of many types.  Developing respiratory issues such as significant airway inflammation, increased airway resistance, lung hyperinflation, and chronic bronchitis. It causes major depression, post-traumatic stress disorder or generalized anxiety disorder, and psychiatric disorder.  As well as cognitive impairments.

THE USE

Whether frequent, the risk of developing schizophrenia or other psychoses in people who are predisposed to these conditions is confirmed.

Regular use increases the risk of developing a social anxiety disorder.  As it increases depression and suicidal feelings.

THE ADVANTAGES

The use of Cannabis or marijuana is known to stimulate creativity. They can be used for medicinal reasons such as ease of physical pain and as a sleep aid.

WORD MEANINGS

Psychosis is a collection of symptoms that causes a person to lose touch with reality.  It is often a symptom of schizophrenia, but other conditions can trigger psychosis to occur.

Schizophrenia is a mental health condition that leads to changes in how a person thinks, feels, and behaves.  Anyone can develop psychosis at some point in their life.  Causes include medications, mental health conditions, dementia, and drug or alcohol misuse.

WARNING SIGNS

Many psychosis events are triggered by fear or anxiety. If a person exhibits behavior such as hurried, slowed, or nonsensical speech, they may have attention, concentration, or memory issues. They might also frequently change topics. This mental state can be triggered by being abused or by tragic situations. Drugs or alcohol abuse, or physical injuries. The person needs to see a medical professional.

CHOICES

To each one his choice.  Choose wisely.  Remember, in all our ways, we should consider others. This world is meant for you and me.  A thought comes to mind from my deceased sister’s note. She left it after working in her garden. She wrote, “Happiness of the heart depends on the quality of one’s thoughts.” I added to that.  And the quality of what’s taught.

CONCLUSION

Mr. Trump’s stop-and-go attitude is likened to saying, “One moment you love me, then the next you hate me.” My thoughts are the same as Mr. Trudeau’s: Freedom is not a given. We must be courageous, make sacrifices, and work hard. This is the time when standing our ground calls for endurance, which will, in turn, have to see approved conditions of fairness across the borders. Whether, Mr. Ford will dance or stand firm is yet to see.

Peace!

Store Observations: Leadership Lessons in Retail

I visited a store on Tuesday at Dundas and Yonge Streets at approximately 2:40 in the afternoon. When I was about to enter, I encountered two security guards standing at the entrance, one outside and one inside. I walked past them and was impressed. The aisles were cleaned, and items were meticulously organized.

As I walked down a couple of the aisles to pick up items, I had in thoughts before getting a cart. I got the cart and proceeded to get the other items. When I saw an employee on a ladder stocking away items, I stopped and asked where I would find headphones. I was told in aisle four. As I looked for aisle four, I saw one of the items I needed and picked it up—a wine cork opener. I looked up, saw the number, and went down the aisle. Nothing electrical was there. Instead of going back to her, I decided to look for myself.

Another employee directed me to the far end to find the item. I walked there to notice that what I was looking for was not there. I walked around and back through aisle four. I wondered why the first employee said aisle four. Could it be that she is a new employee? Did it slip her mind where electrical items were located? Did I benefit from being sent to the wrong section? Perhaps. Had I been sent to the right section, I may have left sooner without the item as my most forceful thought was being on time for the movie “Captain America” starting at 3:30 p.m. 

CHANGE YOUR LIFE WITH YOUR THOUGHTS

As I walked to the checkout line, I observed another employee who left her work to show a customer an item she was looking for.

Within, I smiled at the thought entertained, and I fought.

My observation showed me three different approaches as a leader, which are the art and ability to influence and motivate people to accept and follow through with enthusiasm.

My observation also jabbed at my emotions not to confront the first employee as I recalled my brother-in-law’s note on Leadership. “People need to be inspired so they may combat fear or hopelessness. A leader who can hold the trust and confidence of people under trying and frustrating situations is regarded as one who offers unselfish support.”

Such an attitude I wished some of my past leaders had shown me–appreciation instead of constantly seeking my flaws. One of my personal stories can be found in my book Until My Dying Day.

  1. The first employee allowed me [the customer] to see an item needed and others I may purchase, such as cleaning and other household items.
  2. Although the second employee was seen standing while another packed away items, her approach showed her knowledge and attitude of just doing what she was paid to do.
  3. The third employee went beyond her call of duty and took a customer to where the item was located. The customer I heard thanked her as I proceeded to the checkout line.

TIME AND UNFORESEEN CIRCUMSTANCES

Standing in the checkout line, I observed the two security guards in the store. One checked out a customer’s movement as he briefly said something to the other. In the moment of my observation, I thoughtfully noted that one of them should be outside. If something goes wrong, the one outside can apprehend the customer. I then glanced back to the section I had not too long left before spotting the headphones I was looking for.

I wanted to leave, but I stayed in the line because it was longer and closer to the movie’s start time. When my turn came to check out, the cashier scanned the items, and I paid as she bagged them.

Before the cashier was done packing for me to leave, a young man came up and put his items on the counter. Without saying a word, I looked at him. He apologized. I took the bag from the cashier, wished her a good day, and left, spotting one of the security guards outside.

AUTHENTICITY Vs. ACTING

There is a saying that the world is a stage, and we are the actors. While some of us are authentic in our actions, others are actors in what they have seen of our actions or know of our lives. Please be aware of your surroundings and those you interact with. This becomes necessary when you are confused about unexplained situations in your life [as I was.] Done for understanding the response of others from their words or actions.

ENJOYMENT HAD

I got to the movie on time to buy myself a treat, located my seat, used the restroom, and enjoyed watching Captain America in the moving seats.

Overcoming Narcissism: A Path to Personal Growth

I will start this post by quoting some verses from Proverbs 16. The verses highlight the need for inner change and emphasize how we treat others.

  • 23.         The heart of the wise one causes his mouth to show insight, and to his lips, it adds persuasiveness. Before you speak, pause. The tongue is a small member, yet it sets the emotions of others on fire with what is spoken. Let your words be like salt that gives flavor.
  • 24. Pleasant sayings are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. This is especially true when experiencing difficulties others cannot understand. Talking to someone whose words are comforting releases stress and brings peace to your soul.
  • 25           There exists a way that is upright before a man. However, the ways of death are the end of it afterward. Who is there to tell a man whose mindset to go or do a sure thing should be aborted. He will not listen, choosing to gain experience, whether to live or die.
  • 27.         A good-for-nothing man is digging up what is evil. Upon his lips, there is what seems like a scorching fire. Be aware of the friends you choose. Those who keep taking you back to your past do not have your best interest at heart.
  • 28.         A man of intrigues keeps sending forth contention, and a slanderer separates those familiar with one another. Keep as far as possible from those who spread contention. They do this by talking about others and discussing what they may have said about you behind their backs. Such individuals cause separation among those who are familiar with each other.
  • 29.         A man of violence will mislead his fellow. He will certainly cause him to go in a way that is not good. To some, violence is a sport. They lack intelligence and do not know good from evil.

YES. I am talking to the person reading this text. To you in the mirror, I am asking you to make a change. 

A narcissist whose addicted attitude is to torment will find every opportunity to be in your life. He or she will even find lodging in the area or building you chose to live in. They will befriend your family, friends, and business relationships and use those against you. When you recognize this, act like a medical professional they need. Be aware of the danger to themselves and, most importantly, to you. Immediately, you must cut all ties with the person. Do Not interact Or communicate With Them. Of course, it is easier to write, say, than done. Because the ones you have to deal with are his or her cohorts. However, remember that your purpose is to get the person and those he or she is controlling out of your life. Therefore, with every obstacle he or she puts in your path, maintain your focus, faith, and truths. 

I never thought to associate the word with anyone I knew even with the troubles I have endured over the years. I gradually lost friends and observed the situation. With social media’s help, I came to understand the intentional game a narcissist plays. After years of moving from different areas I finally got housing within a government-run building, with my rent geared to income (RGI). What does this mean? When my income increases, so does my rent; when it falls, so does my rent. This was an advantage for me, as my job situation changed a lot. The ‘god’s are strong in their manipulation of weak minds, and so a TKO was always suffered.

ADVANTAGE NOT ALWAYS DISADVANTAGE

Over the years, I have seen staff come and go. This worried me because of the personal information that had to be shared. Privacy was no longer my own. However, survival became the reason for staying. The challenge of finding an affordable unit in the housing market overshadowed the advantage of having a lower rental cost.

One who sees to it each month that all creditors are dealt with equally. Amounts owed are fully paid, or partially; this includes my rent. The arrears for my rental unit are paid off at the end of the year. I was blessed to have my rental issue solved throughout the years, but I still received notices of balances owed. Each time, I requested my account to be updated. Each time, with the current coordinator, I am told, “A computer generates the information. I cannot make any changes.” The explanations as to how this untruth will affect my future search or request for housing. To no concern, did this affect a change in bringing my account up to date?

THE DISADVANTAGE

To live within the housing system, one’s income must be at a certain level. However, not all who live and work within the housing system see themselves staying there until death. Some seek ways to elevate themselves, thus eventually leaving the community—a good thing to do.

However, the advantage you had for some time becomes a disadvantage. Your personal life and affairs become known by the systems’ workers and the ones your narcissist has befriended.

I am one of those trying to elevate myself from mediocrity. One day, I met a young man while searching for someone to hire. He claimed he could do my social site for me. I negotiated the contract to an amount I was able and willing to pay.

I am cautious with those I allow to enter my life, knowing that the individual will have to be mentally stronger than I am to handle the games. Over the years, I have lost friendships, and some have distanced themselves from me. I did not mind because I find my own company very rewarding. I also realized that not all who call themselves friends appreciate you when you are growing up. Your growth, for some reason, makes them uncomfortable. I know people with integrity will seek truth. And those who are accountable have nothing to fear from the truth. For those two reasons, I think such ones would seek clarity by confronting me. Instead, I found that some would lose their friendship rather than confront their own insecurities.

We must trust others, but I always let people know that complete trust must be theirs. Jeremiah 17:5 even declares the seriousness of putting our trust in man. Further, Isaiah 26:3 reads, “You will safeguard the inclination that is well supported. This is done in continuous peace because it is in you that one is made to trust.” Friends, do put your trust in Him, who sees all things.

During one summer month, I communicated with the social site’s creator, attended to other businesses, made payments to different ones, and progressed with my goals. Out of nowhere, I received a call informing me that my rent for the past month had not been paid.

I was shocked. I reported this to the coordinator, who called to inform me. So, I got on my phone to check. 

I knew I had made a payment, but I did not record the confirmation at the time. I was aware that I would receive a letter confirming the payment.

I wished that, as always, I had recorded the confirmation number immediately.

I could not find the letter on my computer. I also couldn’t find a payment listed on the phone. The phone was not updating correctly. I decided to go into the Bank. The receptionist approached me and asked what she could assist me with today. I explained the situation, and she showed me what to do as we looked for the payment. No payment was made. When I returned home, I called online customer service. After the explanation was given, I was informed that I had forgotten to press a button. That button would have caused the payment to be processed.   Frustrated with hurtful feelings, I thanked the agent for his time and hung up. That same day I opened my mail, a letter from the head office informed me of my balance in arrears. The content almost sent the cover off the pot—so speaking—had I not been mentally strong. Immediately, I called the coordinator. I told her that I would not pay the extra cost added to the amount owed. She already knew what the balance amount was to be. Furthermore, I will not pay until my account is up to date.

STAND YOUR GROUND

Narcissists love it when you react. So, remember to respond kindly to yourself. There is so much one has to deal with these days. Paying attention to one’s own affairs is crucial to overall peace, than continuing a fight with those who thrive on conflicts, and wars.

Be kind to those who enter your lives while being balanced.

Exercise love. Stay awake. Stand firm in the faith. Carry on as men (and women); each grows mighty in all goodness. Let all your affairs take place with love.

The link below will further inform you, and also guide you on how to protect yourself. Here are 7 ways to defeat a narcissist, found on YouTube.

https://youtu.be/?HJxDk-IIIO?si=HiajH95qldkKH2io