I will start this post by quoting some verses from Proverbs 16. The verses highlight the need for inner change and emphasize how we treat others.
- 23. The heart of the wise one causes his mouth to show insight, and to his lips, it adds persuasiveness. Before you speak, pause. The tongue is a small member, yet it sets the emotions of others on fire with what is spoken. Let your words be like salt that gives flavor.
- 24. Pleasant sayings are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. This is especially true when experiencing difficulties others cannot understand. Talking to someone whose words are comforting releases stress and brings peace to your soul.
- 25 There exists a way that is upright before a man. However, the ways of death are the end of it afterward. Who is there to tell a man whose mindset to go or do a sure thing should be aborted. He will not listen, choosing to gain experience, whether to live or die.
- 27. A good-for-nothing man is digging up what is evil. Upon his lips, there is what seems like a scorching fire. Be aware of the friends you choose. Those who keep taking you back to your past do not have your best interest at heart.
- 28. A man of intrigues keeps sending forth contention, and a slanderer separates those familiar with one another. Keep as far as possible from those who spread contention. They do this by talking about others and discussing what they may have said about you behind their backs. Such individuals cause separation among those who are familiar with each other.
- 29. A man of violence will mislead his fellow. He will certainly cause him to go in a way that is not good. To some, violence is a sport. They lack intelligence and do not know good from evil.
YES. I am talking to the person reading this text. To you in the mirror, I am asking you to make a change.
A narcissist whose addicted attitude is to torment will find every opportunity to be in your life. He or she will even find lodging in the area or building you chose to live in. They will befriend your family, friends, and business relationships and use those against you. When you recognize this, act like a medical professional they need. Be aware of the danger to themselves and, most importantly, to you. Immediately, you must cut all ties with the person. Do Not interact Or communicate With Them. Of course, it is easier to write, say, than done. Because the ones you have to deal with are his or her cohorts. However, remember that your purpose is to get the person and those he or she is controlling out of your life. Therefore, with every obstacle he or she puts in your path, maintain your focus, faith, and truths.
I never thought to associate the word with anyone I knew even with the troubles I have endured over the years. I gradually lost friends and observed the situation. With social media’s help, I came to understand the intentional game a narcissist plays. After years of moving from different areas I finally got housing within a government-run building, with my rent geared to income (RGI). What does this mean? When my income increases, so does my rent; when it falls, so does my rent. This was an advantage for me, as my job situation changed a lot. The ‘god’s are strong in their manipulation of weak minds, and so a TKO was always suffered.
ADVANTAGE NOT ALWAYS DISADVANTAGE
Over the years, I have seen staff come and go. This worried me because of the personal information that had to be shared. Privacy was no longer my own. However, survival became the reason for staying. The challenge of finding an affordable unit in the housing market overshadowed the advantage of having a lower rental cost.
One who sees to it each month that all creditors are dealt with equally. Amounts owed are fully paid, or partially; this includes my rent. The arrears for my rental unit are paid off at the end of the year. I was blessed to have my rental issue solved throughout the years, but I still received notices of balances owed. Each time, I requested my account to be updated. Each time, with the current coordinator, I am told, “A computer generates the information. I cannot make any changes.” The explanations as to how this untruth will affect my future search or request for housing. To no concern, did this affect a change in bringing my account up to date?
THE DISADVANTAGE
To live within the housing system, one’s income must be at a certain level. However, not all who live and work within the housing system see themselves staying there until death. Some seek ways to elevate themselves, thus eventually leaving the community—a good thing to do.
However, the advantage you had for some time becomes a disadvantage. Your personal life and affairs become known by the systems’ workers and the ones your narcissist has befriended.
I am one of those trying to elevate myself from mediocrity. One day, I met a young man while searching for someone to hire. He claimed he could do my social site for me. I negotiated the contract to an amount I was able and willing to pay.
I am cautious with those I allow to enter my life, knowing that the individual will have to be mentally stronger than I am to handle the games. Over the years, I have lost friendships, and some have distanced themselves from me. I did not mind because I find my own company very rewarding. I also realized that not all who call themselves friends appreciate you when you are growing up. Your growth, for some reason, makes them uncomfortable. I know people with integrity will seek truth. And those who are accountable have nothing to fear from the truth. For those two reasons, I think such ones would seek clarity by confronting me. Instead, I found that some would lose their friendship rather than confront their own insecurities.
We must trust others, but I always let people know that complete trust must be theirs. Jeremiah 17:5 even declares the seriousness of putting our trust in man. Further, Isaiah 26:3 reads, “You will safeguard the inclination that is well supported. This is done in continuous peace because it is in you that one is made to trust.” Friends, do put your trust in Him, who sees all things.
During one summer month, I communicated with the social site’s creator, attended to other businesses, made payments to different ones, and progressed with my goals. Out of nowhere, I received a call informing me that my rent for the past month had not been paid.
I was shocked. I reported this to the coordinator, who called to inform me. So, I got on my phone to check.
I knew I had made a payment, but I did not record the confirmation at the time. I was aware that I would receive a letter confirming the payment.
I wished that, as always, I had recorded the confirmation number immediately.
I could not find the letter on my computer. I also couldn’t find a payment listed on the phone. The phone was not updating correctly. I decided to go into the Bank. The receptionist approached me and asked what she could assist me with today. I explained the situation, and she showed me what to do as we looked for the payment. No payment was made. When I returned home, I called online customer service. After the explanation was given, I was informed that I had forgotten to press a button. That button would have caused the payment to be processed. Frustrated with hurtful feelings, I thanked the agent for his time and hung up. That same day I opened my mail, a letter from the head office informed me of my balance in arrears. The content almost sent the cover off the pot—so speaking—had I not been mentally strong. Immediately, I called the coordinator. I told her that I would not pay the extra cost added to the amount owed. She already knew what the balance amount was to be. Furthermore, I will not pay until my account is up to date.
STAND YOUR GROUND
Narcissists love it when you react. So, remember to respond kindly to yourself. There is so much one has to deal with these days. Paying attention to one’s own affairs is crucial to overall peace, than continuing a fight with those who thrive on conflicts, and wars.
Be kind to those who enter your lives while being balanced.
Exercise love. Stay awake. Stand firm in the faith. Carry on as men (and women); each grows mighty in all goodness. Let all your affairs take place with love.
The link below will further inform you, and also guide you on how to protect yourself. Here are 7 ways to defeat a narcissist, found on YouTube.
https://youtu.be/?HJxDk-IIIO?si=HiajH95qldkKH2io
Better The End 